He proposed but refuses to speak about wedding planning

posted 3 months ago in Engagement
  • poll: Wh
  • Post # 76
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    1788 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    why214 :  aw I hope you find a place for yourself and your kids very soon. Please keep us updated. This community overall is very supportive.  We worry when we hear a story like yours and then don’t hear what happened!

    Post # 77
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    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Aww- bee, if you haven’t already done so, I strongly recommend changing the passwords to your email, social media and financial accounts. If he is access to your bank accounts, shut those down and open others he has no access to. If your names are both on utilities, etc, close those accounts as of x date. When you leave, you’ll want to make sure he can’t cause you financial havoc. Financial abuse can also be a part of escalation.

    Post # 81
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    8798 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    why214 :  

    Bee, I hope you are still going forward with your plans to move out.  Please do not minimize this guys abusive behavior.  You and your children are not currently in a safe place.

    Post # 83
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    8798 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2010

    why214 :  

    Thank you for checking in.  Please keep us updated.

    Post # 85
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    296 posts
    Helper bee

    Are you still ok? How is the appartment hunt going? I think about you and want you and the kids to be safe.

    Post # 87
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    296 posts
    Helper bee

    Good to hear.  I think we all will be happy to hear that you have taken your kids and moved out. He is an awful role model for them on top of everything else.

    You do not want your kids to grow up thinking this is how a partner behaves towards his other half or see that their mum stayed with a man that had very little (if any) respect for her and that it’s OK that she got shouted at and treated so poorly.

    If you have a daughter she will learn that this is acceptable behaviour in a boyfriend/husband and a son will learn this is how you treat women. They need to see a strong mum that puts her kids and herself first in this unhealthy mess.

    Good luck with the appts. Keep us updated.

    Post # 88
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    1429 posts
    Bumble bee

    why214 :  good luck at the apartment appointments tomorrow. i hope you find something suitable soon. i know living a charade can be so draining. 

    Post # 89
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    721 posts
    Busy bee

    This is God’s way of helping you dive a major bullet. Run. 

    Post # 90
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    1251 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    why214 :  How did your appointment go? Any luck with the apt search?

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