He proposed but refuses to speak about wedding planningposted 2 weeks ago in Engagement
- 6 days ago
- Wedding: August 2017
Aww- bee, if you haven’t already done so, I strongly recommend changing the passwords to your email, social media and financial accounts. If he is access to your bank accounts, shut those down and open others he has no access to. If your names are both on utilities, etc, close those accounts as of x date. When you leave, you’ll want to make sure he can’t cause you financial havoc. Financial abuse can also be a part of escalation.
- 5 days ago
mrstodd2bee : Hi. Thank you. I see that you’re all supportive. We haven’t spoken other then mundane stuff and yet he still manages to argue. It is unbelievable. I haven’t really responded other then saying, I won’t speak to you if you’re yelling or have a harsh tone. Then he says a few more things and eventually stops. But I have hit the uktra mute button on myself to avoid discussions that then turn into something else because he doesn’t speak well and is constantly angry about something. For example, I’ll be working all day and still cook, pick up kids etc yet he will find something is not done and start to argue about it.
- 4 days ago
sassy411 : Hi. He is still arguing and I’m still looking for an apartment. I’m just trying to stay in peace within myself and not even bother to engage in discussions with him. He bought up the marriage stuff and said he want to talk about it but expects me to resume being happy and carefree in order to do so. I’m not arguing with him but i won’t walk around as if I’m happy so he is annoyed. Now the new thing he is saying is: until I wear the ring he won’t speak about it. I said I wore it for 3 months and you said you were feeling pressured/ a conversation about marriage planning should be relevant to both people in the relationship and be happy moments. So being that isn’t so for you I feel it was fair not to wear the ring and I will continue not to wear it.
- 2 days ago
Are you still ok? How is the appartment hunt going? I think about you and want you and the kids to be safe.
- 2 days ago
desiderata : Hi how are you? Thank you for thinking of us. We are well. I’m still here. I’m not talking about it so in his mind all is well. We did Father’s Day and I just feel horrible going through the daily motions. I feel as if I’m lying because I can’t speak my mind trying to keep this house at peace. He acted all nice but doesn’t say anything. I’m still moving forward searching. Have appointments tomorrow.
- 2 days ago
Good to hear. I think we all will be happy to hear that you have taken your kids and moved out. He is an awful role model for them on top of everything else.
You do not want your kids to grow up thinking this is how a partner behaves towards his other half or see that their mum stayed with a man that had very little (if any) respect for her and that it’s OK that she got shouted at and treated so poorly.
If you have a daughter she will learn that this is acceptable behaviour in a boyfriend/husband and a son will learn this is how you treat women. They need to see a strong mum that puts her kids and herself first in this unhealthy mess.
Good luck with the appts. Keep us updated.
- 1 day ago
This is God’s way of helping you dive a major bullet. Run.