Post # 1
He proposed! After 7 1/2 years it happened! If any of you remember my posts over the last few months of being upset etc. Turns out the ring had been on layaway since January and sitting in the trunk of his car for 2 months!!
He proposed at his parents house on Memorial Day! My parents came too. I was sitting inside with his 17 year old sister (while she was sneaking beer) lol. He kept coming in saying, “hey come outside” and I kept telling him no lol.
Finally his mom told me to come out so I did. Then he got up and said, “here have my chair” and then he left. So I sat down and he came back a few minutes later. He then said “Ok everyone it’s been almost 8 years and I think it’s time.” Then he got down on one knee in front of me with the ring and asked!
Fast forward to this morning, he asks me if I would like to get married at the court house legally before a big traditional one (next year) that way I can get on his insurance. I ride/show horses and it scares him that I am without it.
Has anyone ever gotten legally married before for insurance or other reasons?
Post # 2
Congrats on your engagement! But, I’m really tired of seeing people saying courthouse weddings are not real weddings. Just because it was at a courthouse doesn’t make it any less of a wedding. The day you get married IS your wedding day.
Post # 3
our courthouse wedding was our real wedding. And it was perfect for us.
Post # 4
gardener09 : I haven’t but thousands have. It is not uncommon in the military for the same reasons- so the spouse can get benefits before the partner is deployed.
Where people get their knickers in a knot, is if you try to pretend that what you call the “real” wedding, is the first wedding.
Post # 5
ramengirl : This 100%!
gardener09 : Your courthouse wedding is your wedding day and will be your anniversary! I understand wanting to celebrate the next year for various reasons. Maybe you can renew your vows and have celebration at that time!!! 🙂
Post # 6
ramengirl : I’m sorry I didn’t mean it like that! I meant 2nd wedding with the whole shebang! My parents and his parents both got married at the same courthouse that we are going to 🙂
Post # 7
Ok I changed the wording to say what I meant!
Post # 8
You are going to get a lot of backlash from the bees on here, but you do what’s best for you. We did the same thing actually because my husband HAD to get on my health insurance. We got married at the courthouse and it was still very special for us. We hired a photographer and got a bouquet/boutonniere. We’re still having a separate wedding next year and we will cherish both weddings.