Post # 1
My friends over here and was trying to find a place where to give her advice and thought of here right away. My girl friend has been dating this guy for a few weeks now and they are extremly happy together and everything all good except.. he has come out and said he will not wear a condom. She on the otherhand is very cautious, always has been when it comes to being protected during sex.
She’s not on the pill and hasn’t been in a long time. This has made her very upset as she really likes him, she told him this has never been an issue in the past dating other men and he said same in his casewith other girls. He said because he likes her so much that could come to an agreement he will try it with condom on for a bit then once shes on the pill without. She said she’d only do that if he gave her proof of his STD records and is clean she would do the same.
Even then shes still a little down about it. What do you think??
Post # 3
Deal breaker. If he doesn’t care about her safety and health enough to wear one, I would be looking for the exit.
Post # 4
@Misswhowedding: + a million.
No way would I stay with this guy. Don’t let the door hitcha on the way out.
Post # 6
@HopelessRomanticxo: Well, this is certainly her call. There is a risk, obviously. But, it’s a risk she’ll have to decide if she’s willing to take.
Post # 7
@HopelessRomanticxo: Absolutely agree with PP. No way he gets to make that kind of ultimatum.
Post # 8
@HopelessRomanticxo: Hell no! Beyond the possible pregnancy issue the fact that they have only known each other that long even if he gives her proof of negative STD tests, some Save-The-Date Cards (like HIV) can not be detected until up to six months after infection. It also shows a lack of sensetivity on his part that he wouldn’t respect her wishes on this very important matter.
Post # 9
If he really cared about her he would put her needs above his desire to have unprotected sex.
Post # 10
All I can think of is going in for a pap smear today and the nurse telling me about alllll the folks with HPV. Most guys don’t know they are carrying it, but it can lead to CERVICAL CANCER.
So…why would you even risk it?
Ew, she should not sleep with him.
Post # 11
Better yet, you should add a poll. I’d like to see how many bees would subject themselves to an unprotected penis of a guy who never protects his penis.
Post # 12
@HopelessRomanticxo: no way. If he won’t wear one with her he hasn’t been wearing them with those before her. Not worth the risk. and even with the “deal” to wear one for a while… I don’t know it just sounds like he doesn’t respect her or care about her- if he did he would put her feelings first.
Post # 13
Nope nope nope. A guy like that can’t be trusted.
Post # 14
You didn’t say if they were exclusive or not. If they’re exclusive, I think that’s something a couple has to decide on together. I wouldn’t be with a guy who wasn’t willing to talk to me honestly about sex and compromise on something that worked for both of us.
If they were going to go without condoms, I think they should both get tested for Save-The-Date Cards. They should also find an alternate birth control method they are both comfortable with. He should be prepared to wear condoms or abstain from sex sometimes, like if she misses a pill.
Post # 15
I would never waste my time on someone who didn’t care about my sexual health nor his.
Post # 16
I think if he doesn’t want to have sex with a condom on, he simply hasn’t had enough time to want it enough.
I’ve been told a condom would make the little guy downstairs “wilt.” My view was…that’s too bad. We’ll have to wait. Once the little guy is enthusiastic enough, I’m sure a condom made out of itchy wool wouldn’t stop it. Experience confirms this to be the case (well, not the itchy wool part, but the rest 🙂 )