(Closed) He returned the ring…that can't be good!

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Maybe he found your ideal ring for a better price somewhere! 🙂  That’s the first thing I would think if Fiance returned mine

Post # 18
1809 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe he noticed you noticed?

Post # 20
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Lily_of_the_valley:  hmm… yeah, I’d want to know but I also wouldn’t really snoop as much because I KNOW I’d want to know… if that makes sense?

I was heavily involved in the purchase of my ring…
I basically ordered it and all and then gave it to him to spring on me when he saw fit. Not as romantic but honestly, you’re not really far off if you’ve shown him what you want and are snooping to see when its been ordered and when its arriving? lol

Do you WANT to ask? Perhaps this is one of his last attempts at actually surprising you?  I think the way you guys share everything (bank accounts, emails, etc) that maybe he’s trying to keep you out of the loop more than you think. lol

I would just try to let it go… you know its gonna happen and you know you’ve shown him everything you want, so just sit back and let it be a surprise! There are very few surprises left in this life… give him a little space and enjoy it!

Post # 22
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Lily_of_the_valley:  If the only thing resembling a timeline he would give me is “When the time is right” and he returned the ring, I would definitely be having a conversation with him. Is it at all possible he just ordered it to shut you up for awhile? I hope not, but if you two really aren’t having money problems, why would he send it back for a refund if he knew it was exactly what you wanted, unless he was never actually planning to give it to you?

Either way, you deserve the truth. Have you noticed whether a credit has shown up for the return on your bank info? If so, that would be a perfect place to start the conversation. Also, are you positive he was returnng it for a refund and not just exchanging it for a bigger stone or something? Just talk to him. No sense going crazy with worry and fear. If it’s a bad thing, it’s better to just know and start dealing with it, and if it’s not a bad thing, you’re stressing yourself for no reason!

Post # 24
4554 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Lily_of_the_valley:  Hm…Sneaky. If there’s any possible way that you could frame this in a way that you found the info accidentally rather than by snooping, I’d still have the convo. I have no idea what to make of this as an outsider and I can’t imagine what you must be going through.

Post # 25
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think he figured out you knew he ordered it.  He’s trying to surprise you.  Let it be.

Post # 26
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mrsromo:  Yep.  Maybe he secretly forged the return receipt and put it for your snooping eyes to find.  😉

Post # 27
9168 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

leave it alone. seriously. 

Post # 28
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Lily_of_the_valley:  November?  It is a bit curious, you’re right.  I mean, if the ‘buy/return’ came from the joint account, then I guess you could just mention it maybe.  See, my take is that if you guys are already living together, sharing everything like a married couple and it is no secret that you both have been talking openly about the next step, then, yeah, if the process was begun three months ago and is somehow stagnating, it is reasonable to bring this up in a peaceful manner.  


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