(Closed) He ruined the secret…don’t know what to do. LONG.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That does kind of suck.  I would say if someone snidely comments on it, just turn around and say “I love my ring.  It looks gorgeous, my fiance bought it for me, and I don’t need to worry about where it came from.  I can sleep better at night knowing we were economically and ethically responsible.”  I know that’s not the angle you’re going for, but it will shut down ANY snarkiness.  You’re not actually accusing anyone with diamonds of being irresponsible, but you are saying that for you this was the right choice.

I think the biggest issue here is that your Fiance knew you wanted to keep it a secret and he told someone anyway; does he understand why that upsets you?

Post # 4
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At this point, it’s out of your control what happens with the friend. If he brings it up, you can just tell him how happy you are to be marrying the love of your life and you are saving up money to buy a car/house/honeymoon/etc.

Post # 5
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5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

They can think you cheaped out all they want and pretend like their diamonds are so much better for whatever reason they’d like to make up. You know you made a smart decision and your ring is going to be gorgeous! 🙂

Post # 6
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure why you would even feel the need to lie, because its not anything to be ashamed of. And who cares what people think about your ring, as long as you love it

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure why you would even feel the need to lie, because its not anything to be ashamed of. And who cares what people think about your ring, as long as you love it

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure why you would even feel the need to lie, because its not anything to be ashamed of. And who cares what people think about your ring, as long as you love it

Post # 6
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure why you would even feel the need to lie, because its not anything to be ashamed of. And who cares what people think about your ring, as long as you love it

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

From one proud, sim-wearing gal to another: it’s easier said than done, but you get to choose how you let any flak affect you.  If folks begrudge someone such a practical (and, hello–personal) choice, it says of hell of a lot more about them than it does about you.

As for the bit about your guy disclosing this bit of info to his friend, he very well could have gotten excited and let it slip.  A lot of dudes don’t get why this would be a big deal to us; some don’t realize just how catty others can be, and some (like mine) happily take the “eff ’em” approach.  Maybe you can try gently reminding him that you’d prefer for that information to be kept between you two, because you’d rather not be put in a position to feel as though you have to defend your choice.

Post # 6
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I’m not sure why you would even feel the need to lie, because its not anything to be ashamed of. And who cares what people think about your ring, as long as you love it

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@HappierKate:   absolutely. it’s your ego talking, your fear that others will think less of you, the ring, your relationship, etc. In your heart, you know its’ what you want. it’s more affordable and ethically responsible. good for you!

but tell your guy to keep his mouth shut! 😉

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