He said he feels like he has to?

posted 12 months ago in Waiting
Post # 31
10103 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Sounds like he has some reservations about marrying you. And he said some stuff he knows would get him in trouble.

Post # 32
1504 posts
Bumble bee

I know you don’t want this to turn into a thread about snooping, but I think it’s very relevant here. How do you know he’s always deleting his texts if you’re not snooping regularly? Why are you snooping on his texts? There clearly isn’t any trust in the relationship if you keep checking his phone. Either that or you have no respect for his boundaries and need for privacy and are controlling.

There’s a lot more to this story then you’re letting us in on. He knows you’re snooping which is why he deletes texts. I think on some level whether you want to admit it or not you have pushed him into proposing. If you’re that controlling you regularly check his phone I can definitely see you forcing or massively influencing this proposal and not even realising you’re doing it. I think you need to take a hard look at the way you’re conducting yourself in your relationship and you’ll have your answer. 

Post # 33
4744 posts
Honey bee

Sometimes you can analyze shit to death. If his actions show that he is ready to propose, I’d forget about the text message. People are what they do, not what they say. And I do think if you went looking through his phone you have some doubts where he is concerned.

Post # 34
580 posts
Busy bee

I honestly wouldn’t think anything of it. He wouldn’t purchase a ring and propose if he felt pressured or isn’t what he really wants. Stop snooping! I shouldn’t talk. 😜

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