(Closed) He said he was leaving. She ignored him – What do you think?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1660 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@alotlikelove:  I think that woman is both crazy and an absolute genius.  I don’t think I could ever be that strong to just let my husband say those things without any reaction.   I feel like she had to have had some serious instant denial to be able to do that, but it worked for them and that’s great.

I think it says a lot about relationships and how to get through the tough stuff that comes later though. Because as much as a relationship needs two people to work on it, you also have to work on yourself.  Very interesting.

Post # 4
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@alotlikelove:  Wow, I can’t imagine being able to do what she did. Thansk for sharing!

Post # 5
9691 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Wow!  I’m not sure I could have done that either.  Thanks for sharing

Post # 6
2400 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I seriously cried. That story was amazing and she showed courage. Thanks for sharing!

Post # 7
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Very interesting. I honestly don’t know if I would the strength to endure that day after day but kudos to her.

Post # 8
706 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That’s pretty powerful.  Thank you for sharing.

Post # 9
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Sounds like something I would do…there’s strong and then there’s STRONG….I like her a lot.

Post # 10
2555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

mmmm… i’d like to see where they are in, say, 5 or 10 years

Post # 11
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Wow, just…wow.


This sort of leads to something I’ve been thinking about for a while. Surely her husband didn’t just wake up one day and realise that his job wasn’t going well or that he wasn’t happy with his body. Those things don’t happen over night. So WHY then did he allow those things to creep up on himself, fester and then “all of a sudden” decide he was unhappy.

If that doesn’t make sense, this is what I mean: Why wasn’t he communicating about his unhappiness as it unfolded? If your SO starts to come home night after night and every day isn’t great, there are no good stories to tell. Then won’t you both become aware of what is really causing the unhappiness? It’s a lot harder to blame the marriage when you’ve both been aware of the problem and perhaps able to fix it early. 

This most likely still doesn’t make alot of of sense so let me try one sentence:

If you are communicating well and honestly, how can this sort of thing come out of nowhere and blindside you?

Post # 12
7527 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Very interesting.

Post # 13
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think she’s a very smart woman who made a brave and insightful choice. I hope I’m never in the same position, but I’ll remember her approach.

Post # 14
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i read this article a long time ago and i cried! i thought it was a fantastic and very interesting article. that woman was strong.

Post # 15
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Sodo Park

I read this article today, too! I absolutely loved it!

As a mental health counselor, this article really made me think about the ways that I try to help my clients, especially those who are having relationship problems.

As a bride-to-be, I was floored by how amazingly strong this woman is/was – and how smart. She was totally right that his unhappiness was on him but it takes so much courage and surety of self to recognize that!

Post # 16
2420 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

wow. i love that. she is amazing. im so glad that worked for her, im not sure if it would for everyones relationship though! but definitely worth the try!

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