(Closed) He said I need to decide what kind of ring I want… but I don’t know!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do?
    Find a less expensive ring that you like and learn to love it. : (3 votes)
    5 %
    Use a family diamond dummy, FREE DIAMOND, what is wrong with you? : (51 votes)
    84 %
    Forget this engagement ring nonsense since you might not wear it every day after you have the band. : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Get engaged and buy a ring after or in a couple of years. : (3 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    πŸ™‚ Okay so i voted for option 2, but i’m NOT calling you a Dummy πŸ™‚ having a diamond that had been in someones family is such a honor! I have my FI’s Grandmothers stone and while he knew the originial wasn’t really something i would like, he went out and had it set into something perfect for me!!! (and at a FRACTION of what it would have cost~!) he can still get you a wonderful setting or (have you design one yourself!)

    Good luck!

    Post # 4
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would design a ring and use a family diamond- you can create exactly what you want and don’t have to worry about upgrading later. It would still be from him- he would be providing the setting. 

    Post # 6
    371 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You could always go with something like moissanite if you are worried about cost!  But I think using your stepmom’s diamond sounds like a great idea, as well.  If he wants to be involved, give him a general idea of style and let him design the setting.

    Post # 7
    16 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would say go for the family stone or an estate piece if you want the look of a traditional engagement ring.  If you’re really not into the traditional engagement ring for every day you could look at an eternity band that could be both a wedding band and engagement ring or worn with a plain wedding band.  Do not settle for something you don’t love – find something you love that you can afford πŸ™‚

    I got an estate engagement ring and wedding band (separately) online and am very happy with both purchases so take your time and look around.

    Post # 8
    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Free big family diamond dummy!!  LaughingMaybe it doesnt quite fit the ‘lifestyle’ now, but I’m sure you’ll grow in to it.  I vote def dont do option 1 and ‘waste money’ on something else that is not the ring you love.  Use the family diamond and get a setting you love.  Option #3 could be the same as #2, if you use the family ring as is, it could be a place holder until you have your one wedding band.

    Post # 9
    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    double post

    Post # 10
    100 posts
    Blushing bee

    @ShesElectric: Hola!! My bf and I are currently looking/shopping for a ring. The price of diamonds and gold have gone up tremendously!!! DEFINITELY TAKE THE FAMILY DIAMOND! I am so jealous! I would love for my man to just have to pay for the setting and save about 4K!!! lol We could put that in savings. But no family diamond means less in the bank! haha. Even if you end up not wearing it so much later, you can give it to one of your children one day!!!

    Post # 11
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Although I voted #2, I actually regret it. Go with what’s in your heart. If the big rock doesnt represent your engagemnt in the personal way you want, spring for a great wedding band you pick together. Get something you are both excited about.

    Post # 12
    326 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Family diamond πŸ™‚ Free and sentimenal value…it wasn’t only the “ring he proposed with” but also a diamond given to you guys with love and luck to your future with a history all its own!

    Post # 13
    63 posts
    Worker bee

    You could try a beautiful non-diamond ring. They can be way cheaper than a diamond- so you could choose something you loved without feeling guilty about money. There is a beautiful 1.5 Aquamarine ring at the Bay that goes on sale regularly for $400 CDN that I’m rather smitten with.

    (hope these pics aren’t gigantic)

    Here are a few examples from Etsy: A peridot wedding set


    A set in pale aquamarine (also shows options for other stones)


    Just an idea!


    Post # 15
    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Actually, I think you have a lot more options than you listed, you’ve gotten some great ones πŸ™‚ I think the family diamond idea is great though- he is giving it to you, but it’s been passed down in the family, which I think is sweet.

    I also like the idea of a non-diamond stone, which you seem open to πŸ™‚

    My Fiance and I are poor college students right now and we’re on a tight budget. I picked my own ring as well, and I love it! It was under $400, 1/4 ct, and I don’t have any regrets about it being small, because it symbolizes us right now. I know Mrs. Estep on here has a similar ring but with prettier pictures, lol. Here’s mine:

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