(Closed) He says he will marry me IF…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well it makes sense. I see his  oint of view. If the wedding is important, then financially you will need the money to get married. However, being engaged for a couple years isn’t bad either. You could always tell him you don’t mind a longer engagement.

Sounds like your guy is a ducks in a row kinda guy. Hopefully you win the lotto soon!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well I guess I mean kind of like, he likes to have everything in order, step by step kind of goals. Instead of, ” Go with the flow”. I may have used the term incorrectly though!!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If my Fiance said he’d only marry me if I got rich, I’d tell him I’d only marry him if he sprouted a 9″ penis.

 

Seriously. I just dont understand why people let money come in the way of getting married.  It costs $50 at the court house to get married.  If you’re only getting married to have a wedding, well then, that’s a different story altogether.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

let’s remember what the real meaning of marriage is here people… love, not a $30,000 circus.

Post # 9
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4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did he give you an ammount you had to win, cause it’s relatively easy to win like 5 bucks, so keep trying!

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Your bf is a very smart man. Do you want to be 5000, 10000, 30000 or more in debt? Probably not…. so do yourself a favor and open a savings account on the side and just throw money in there that way you know you’re getting yourself closer just be doing so.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What if he wins the lottery?

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

Some men feel like they can’t get married unless they can financially support their wife and future family.  Maybe he doesn’t care about paying for the wedding.  Maybe it’s the mortgage and the babies that he’s thinking about.

I don’t think it’s right or wrong of him to feel that way.  He wants to be able to support you and your dreams.  There’s probably also financial pressure related to the ring.  I’m guessing you’ll have to wait until he’s ready.  I’ve read about very few bees whose BFs changed their minds about being “financially secure” before getting engaged, let alone married.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Cash000:  You used the term “ducks in a row” correctly.  I just don’t think it’s a term that’s used in the UK.  

 

@VickyAurea:  Stop buying lottery tickets!!!  LOL!  

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If I were you I would totally buy a fake “winning” ticket and scratch it in front of him and then watch his reaction when you “win”!!!!

Also…..even if you win $2.00 on a lottery ticket you still are techinically winning the lottery….

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Is it about marrying him or having a wedding?  He has a point if it’s a wedding you want, but if it’s just about tying the knot, well, that really doesn’t cost very much.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Mt fi felt the same way… he said he would only propose when we were financially stable with solid jobs. I was frustrated at the time, but he was right. I would not have taken kindly to a three or four year engagement, waiting around to have the money for a wedding. Instead, he proposed as soon as we were settled, and a year later, we’re getting married. It’s worth the wait.

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