Post # 32
I think the answer is simple. Have a simple wedding. Only family and a few close friends. Don’t do anything elaborate. You can get buy real real cheap. I speak from experience becuase I’ve been married before. It was 16 years ago but we spent $500. No flowers. I borrowed a wedding dress from a good friend who happened to be the exact size, we had a relationship with a local church (business relationship) so they let us use a lovely hall for free. We had friends who are musicians, so they played…for free. No reception. Just went out to dinner with close friends and the next morning left for our honeymoon where we did spent $1,500.
So I guess that means total cost to be married $2,000. That includes wedding bands, wedding, and honeymoon. Simple. You’re just as married with a simple wedding.
And, if you offer this up and he doesn’t bite, that means it could be an excuse. could be…..only he knows.
Post # 33
@prshadow: My immediate family is 24. But if I invited my whole family, which the whole family would expect, I could have at least 80-100 people easily. Plus then SO’s family and plus both of our closest friends. Yep. I am dreaming the smallest possible wedding for us. Which is quite big because my family is huge.
I’d rather walk into a registery office on my own with him than have the type of wedding you talk about. Nothing wrong with it but it just isn’t for me – there would be far too many offended people and, besides, I want a wedding! I get that we can’t afford to pay it all in cash right now but I’d like to lay it on the cards and start making plans. As I see it, we can’t really know our budget until we plan and work out how much stuff that we want costs. I have done this but he refuses to talk about it – it is boring to him and I am a crazy lady for talking about it.
Post # 34
HAHA try to have a sense of humor I suppose. That’s kind of cute, really. You may have to wait until you’re both in a good place financially to afford a wedding, but the wait will be worth it, I’m sure!