- 4 years ago
Ok, I haven’t posted here in quite a while but now I’d like to hear your opinion in something. Well, as some of you might now, I left my abusive boyfriend early in Janury of this year and moved away. I haven’t dated for months, then I decided to create a Tinder account and one of my first matches was a guy I’ve seen at a few parties before, but I never talked to him. We have a couple of friends in common. So we talked on Facebook for like a week, and he sounded nice and fun. He’s 33 (I’m 28 FYI) and he seemed to be mature and interesting, and we talked about a lot if stuff til he asked me out. He seemed super interested in me before we even met, and our date was pretty awesome. We went for dinner and drinks, hung out for about six hours in total, and I really felt like he likes me. He asked me a lot if stuff about my life, complimented me on my achievements, flirted with me and later in the bar he even took my hand or put his hand on my leg. Obviously I also asked him a lot of stuff and flirted, but I hold back a bit because 1. I prefer the man making all the moves on the first date and 2. I felt a bit sick on that day, so I wasn’t sure if I wanted to kiss him (even though I was really attracted to him). In the end he brough me back home, stil seemed super interested, hold my hand on the way back, but in front of my door he just gave me a long hug and a kiss on my cheek, then left.
As soon as I entered my aprtment he messaged me asking if I got safely into my apartment, with a winking smiley. We messaged for about half an hour, then I went to sleep. The next day he messaged me at around 9pm, asking what I was doing. It was a Friday, so I was out with friends already, but he also didn’t ask to meet again. He just said he’s watching a movie and that was it. The next day I messaged him, but he didn’t answer for a while. I didn’t ask him out or anything, but asked what he was doing, hoping he would ask me out again. He didn’t, he just said what he was doing and asked me the same. After that, he only messaged me once saying ‘How are you’, followed by a short conversation, and another time initiated by me. Then nothing. About a week later he was in a bar with our mutual friends, so he messaged me telling to come there. Me and a couple of friends met him and the others there, but him and I didn’t talk very much. After that, again nothing.
This was a few weeks ago and I’m still wondering what happened. He seemed so interested before our date, during the date and immediately afterwards, but then something changed. I know for a fact he isn’t dating anyone else. One of our mutual friends told me that he thinks he’s shy with women, but I didn’t feel like he was shy on our date (ok, he didn’t kiss m, but he made some moves and flirted). One of my female friends says it eas me who is too shy with men and that I dont show it enough when I liked someone. Maybe I’m overanalyzing this and he just lost interest, but I really liked him (and that doesn’t happen to me very often), and we’ll be at the same private party this Friday, so I’m wonderig if I should do something about this or just let it go (since it’s been weeks anyways).