He signed a contract without telling me

posted 1 year ago in The Lounge
Post # 106
7787 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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Tatum :  I imagine she has bigger fish to fry right now. 

OP–if you are still checking in this is not the end of the world–better to learn that you want different things before your wedding, as difficult as it may seem right now, than after. 

Post # 107
1143 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your desire to stay in your hometown does not mean you are a loser lacking ambition. At 18, I wanted to get away and see the world. And I did. I benefited in many ways. But it did come with a price. Distance from family. Being far away when a parent became seriously ill.

People who want to stay in their hometowns are not lesser beings.

Post # 108
583 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

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zl27 :  And at 21!!! This feels like an episode of House Hunters. They must have an incredibly supportive family. 


To OP, if you ever come back, have you considered couple’s counseling and delaying the marriage a few years? I know you’ve been dating since you were kids, but there’s still a lot of growing and learning about yourselves happening at that age. Maybe see where you’re at in 3 years? Even then, you’ll be 23/24… Plenty of time to figure out communication and what you both really value. 

Post # 109
2160 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m kind of disgusted by the number of Bees telling OP that ”she’s too young to know what she wants at 21” and ”she should compromise and move”. It’s very disrespectful. There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to move away from your hometown and it sounds that she’s mature enough to know what she wants and to stick to it. Her fiance on the other hand sounds completely disrespectful and underhand, having signed something that will majorly affect both of them without even discussing it with her. 

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