He sometimes began to forget about me…

posted 3 months ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Talk to him about how you are feeling. He may not realize it. After you talk about it, if his behavior doesn’t change, you should move on and find someone new.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

How often is he doing it? He’s an independent person too and deserves time to himself to relax. This is fine for a little while each day or extended periods of time occasionally. Take the time he’s enjoying his hobby to find or develop your owb hobby. If it’s all the time though, express your concerns to him.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

What do you mean by him forgetting about you? 

How often does he play video games?  Do you have your own things going on or do you just sit about waiting for him? 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

burrita :  Everyone needs their own space, so if he’s occasionally wanting to just chill out and play some video games there’s nothing wrong with that.

My husband is a bit needier than I am, I enjoy sitting by myself in the house and having my own time and he sometimes takes offense to this. We try to find a balance between me needing my me time and also giving him the attention and affection that he needs.

You just need to talk to him about how you’re feeling, but without knowing more details it’s really hard to say what’s going on here.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

When you say “sometimes”, what do you mean?

If he is practically always ignoring you – coming home, barely saying hi, and then shutting himself up in the office on his computer all night – then that is definitely an issue that needs to be addressed.

But if you guys do spend a decent amount of time together, I think you just need to accept that sometimes people need their alone time.

That first 6 monhts living together involves a lot of adjustment and getting used to how the other person lives. My fiance is much more introverted than I am and it took some getting used to when we first started living together, because I’d be down for hanging out all evening every evening, whereas he needs at least a bit of time to himself most evenings. It’s fine, we’ve found a balance that works for us. We eat dinner together most evenings, and will hang out in the hot tub or watch a movie together, etc at least once a week and will often walk the dog together, but otherwise he does spend probably at least a couple of hours doing his own thing without me most nights. Fortunately, I’m not overly needy either, so I’m quite capable of entertaining myself. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

 

quranta :  What? She didn’t say anything about porn?

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

burrita :  Perhaps you could suggest a date night during the week, maybe on Wednesday if you’re feeling like you need a little more from him during the week. My husband and I find it helpful, gets us out of our regular routine during the week.

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