Post # 1
So I’m curious to know which of you bee’s knew when your SO talked to your parent(s) or if they did because…
Tonight SO talked to mine!!
Just a little backstory here, SO and I have been together for 6 years (since we were sixteen). My parents were high school sweethearts who got married right out of college. Although they are still together, I think they both sort of regret not waiting longer before deciding to get married and because of that they have been very hesitant to support SO and I’s relationship. its not that they disapprove of him or even dislike him, in fact they really do like him, its more the fact that we really have any “experience” outside of each other.
So bascially SO and I have been talking about marriage for a long time, but because we went to different colleges and wanted to finish our own stuff and didn’t want to have a super long engagement, we held off on it. We were both really nervous to talk to my parents about getting married because we thought they wouldn’t be truly happy for us.
Well tonight SO talked to them and it went great! Both my parents were happy and wished us the best and said they were excited about it. Apparently SO also mentioned something about how they were always seemed nervous about us being young, but my parents said they weren’t concerned about it anymore 🙂 Sooooo SO told them about the ring that we bought and told them when he planned on proposing (my timeline is before June!) and in the end they all hugged and were happy!
I’m just so relieved it went well, and now I’m so much more excited to show them the ring and tell them when we actually get engaged! YAY!
Post # 4
@lovelorlo: Aww I’m really glad to hear that your SO talking to your parents went well. My poor SO has to do it twice as my parents are separated. I knew that he was planning on asking my dad for his blessing and one night whilst they were watching a rugby game, he asked and my dad was thrilled! I’ve gotten his father’s blessing and now we just have to ask our respective mothers
Post # 5
Woohoo, that is so exciting!! I’m in a similar position, I just found out my SO has spoken to my dad. Well I say spoken, he emailed him because my dad works in Vietnam and won’t be home until around Christmas (the time I think SO wants to propose) and so wouldn’t have had a chance to talk to him in person. I had an idea he was going to speak to my dad soon because he’s dropped a few hints about talking to his parents, I figured talking to mine wouldn’t be long after!
Hope you don’t have to wait too long!!
Post # 6
That’s so exciting!!!! Congratulations 🙂
I was home, but downstairs while they were upstairs when Fiance talked to my dad, and my mum too kinda. He asked dad for his blessing to marry me, mum ran into the room yelling ‘YES!’. We had been dating nearly three years and known each other for nearly four years at that point btw. Dad was thinking of engagements as 6-18 months. So he said no at first, but once he talked to us both and realized we wanted a long engagement (3-5 years) and we agreed to live together for at least a year first (which we wanted to do anyway) and I wanted to finish uni and he wanted to at least be at uni before we got married, he said yes! Then a month later Fiance proposed 🙂
Congratulations again, can’t wait to read the proposal story and see your bling! 🙂
Post # 7
I had absolutely no clue but he had talked to my brother and my father !
Congratulations, that’s very exciting !
Post # 8
I had no idea which is probably a good thing as there was 6 months between the asking and the actual proposal (FI’s last oppertunity to talk to my dad in person).
Congratulations! That’s so exciting!
Post # 9
I know my SO is planning on talking to my dad but I am almost positive that he hasn’t yet. There is a good chance my mom will tell me after he talks to my dad but I may not hear about it beforehand if my dad doesn’t mention it to my mom. Glad the talk with your SO and your parents went well!
Post # 10
That’s so great he talked to your parents! 🙂
Some people say it’s too “traditional”, but I think it’s lovely!
I definitely knew right up to the minute he was going to talk to my dad, because both my dad and SO told me! In fact, as soon as they were done talking, they both called me and told me what they talked about!
They met again a few days ago without telling me (I found out by accident) and talked about some things…I think he was helping my SO with the details of the proposal that’s coming this Thanksgiving when he comes back from training. I think he gave my dad the ring to hold on to for safe keeping since he lives in the barracks.
I’m so excited for us both! 😀
Post # 11
I feel like everyone in our families knows we are getting engaged soon! My SO talked to his family first and they were very happy from what the SO told me. He then talked my my mom and dad who subsequently told my sister and her SO. He says everyone is happy and excited. He even talked to my best friends on advice on how to propose. Just waiting on that darn proposal!
Post # 12
I knew he showed my mother the ring he was buying.. who then in turn showed my grandmother, mainyl because my mothre has a big mouth! 😉 But, he didn’t have “that” talk with my mother or stepfather — I’m not really on speaking terms with my bio father.
Post # 13
I feel like we are in a simliar boat to you. We showed his mom the ring, and then his mom showed it to SO’s dad and siblings because she couldn’t keep it to herself haha but everyone was so excited. We were really just worried mostly about my mom, but I’m so excited everything went so smoothly! AND So didn’t show my parents the ring because he knew I would want to show them first 🙂
I’m so excited for all of us!
Post # 14
He didn’t ask my parents, but I knew it was coming when he asked if he should ask my dad. LOL!
It is very exciting, isn’t it!
Post # 15
It is very exciting! Can’t wait until we are all official!
Post # 16
it is traditional, but I agree i think its also sweet and respectful of the parents. Also SO’s converstation wasn’t so much asking for permission as just saying that it was going to happen and asking for their blessing which i think is pretty much the norm now. I’m so excited to hear what happens with you guys over Thanksgiving!