Post # 1
Hi, I am new here and really wanted a bit of advice.
My boyfriend told me I needed to hurry up and get my passport sorted as he was planning on proposing on our holiday quite a few months ago now. I was so excited about this.
Anyway, fastforward to now and I haven’t said a word to him as I thought I would let him arrange everything. We chose Vennice as a romantic destination. Anyway, we went looking at rings about 2 months ago and I told him my size etc.
So its now 17 days until we go and as he had been all quiet on the engagement I mentioned my friends engagement and as the conversation progressed it turns out he isn’t planning to propose on our holiday after all.
He wants to in the future but wasn’t going to on holiday. I feel devastated. I had my dream engagement in my head after all he said and I feel so hurt.
Its not the first time he said he would propose then didn’t too.
We are having a baby in December so its our only chance for a while to have a romantic break.
I imagined it all in my head, what i would wear, say etc. Wondering how he would do it. I am mad and hurt.
I don’t want to go on the holiday either now. He doesn’t even see the big deal with saying he was planning on proposing(he said it more than once and yes, sober)
Where should I take this situation from here-please please help.
Post # 4
I’m sorry. I think that I would have a SERIOUS talk with him. and before you leave. Otherwise, you will have a horrid trip, because you will be mad at him the whole time. I really hope it works out for you. Maybe he is just trying to surprise you?
Post # 5
I dont know what to say… you dont want him to feel like he HAS to so I wouldnt want to bring it up too much. On the other hand I understand your disapointment. I try to go into everything with the additude “If I expect somthing I will just get disapointed” so I try not to expect or anticipate anything from anyone (including FI) You should still look forward to your vaca with him, Im sure it will be wonderful. Keep your head up girl, it will be your turn soon enough!
Post # 6
not to get your hopes up… but…
I went through this with my fiance. So many times I thought he was going to propose and he didn’t. We looked at rings. Months later. (short version) we booked a photographer for what I mistook as engagement photos. When I talked to him and he said no, that they weren’t epics. I cancelled the session. I was fuming and he let me fume. I rebooked the session with the expectation that it was just nice couples pics for our parents. And he surprised me with a prosposal. It was so romantic and now captured forever in pics.
Let it unfold. Its so hard not to get wrapped up in it all. Let him be the man and plan it.
Post # 7
I am pretty sure he spent the money he has been saving for getting me a ring on the holiday. So I don’t see it happening 🙁