Post # 1

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Sugar bee
I panicked!
I couldn’t believe it. We were just walking around the mall, about to leave. We pass one of the jewelry stores (I always make sure I’m not looking at them) and he suddenly grabs my arm and walks me right in. Honestly, I’ve never been in that situation before and I suddenly froze up. I couldn’t think, almost every ring looked the same. He was asking, well, what do you like, what are your preferences, what about that one. And all I could say was, “I don’t know.” BLAH!
I told him later that night I froze. He said he kinda figured that out. I told him that after I put the relationship ball in his court I figured he might be resistant and I would have at least a year before this subject seriously came up. So, I figured I’d have a while to find out how people go about this whole thing – because it’s such unfamiliar territory for me. He was very understanding and told me to send ideas his way anyways.
I just can’t believe my reaction. The ONE thing I’ve been waiting for – it shows up and I lose my game face. Who would have guessed? π Maybe round 2 will go better.
Just thought I’d share a slightly ironic story with you ladies. Have a great Friday! π
Post # 3

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Buzzing bee
Haha I imagine I might of reacted the same. But this sounds like good progress. Maybe you could start small with online browsing and work your way up.
GoodlucK!
Post # 4

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Busy bee
Wow, I so hear you on this one. I also thought I would have a lot more time to figure out what I liked and how this crazy thing is done. And then when I had my “ahhh we’re not on the same page about rings, are you even listening to me” freakout, he was like “Well… I ordered one of the ones you said you liked. So…” and I felt both pretty silly and blindsided.
But your guy wants to know all about what you like, and I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s a little reassuring for him to see that you don’t know exactly how to do this either. Maybe give him a list of stuff you like and then go back in a jewelry store with some specific ideas? I didn’t even set foot in a physical store except to find out my size, but it’s probably a good idea.
Post # 5

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Busy Beekeeper
i did it too! i was the same way – i kinda just let him run with it so i never ever even looked at the jewlery stores! same thing – one day we were walking through the mall and he was like lets look and i freaked – i was so out of my element in there but i ended up trying one on. but since he had brought it up, when we got home i got on the computer and showed him a few styles i liked – 2 months later i had a ring and now a fabulous husband!
Post # 6

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Blushing bee
This is such a cute story! I hope he surprises you beyond your imagination. G’luck to waiting and the next time you guys visit a jewelry store again, you’ll do more splendidly.
Post # 7

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Blushing bee
oooh, you could use this as an opportunity to maybe find a few rings you like online and forward him the links or print them out π π π hehee why wait for this to get cold, strike while the iron is hot woohooooo
Post # 8

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Worker bee
- Wedding: June 2015 - Garden of the Gods
Too cute! π Well, now the cat’s out of the bag…have fun shopping around! And before you decide you like it, if you can, try it on! (Because as some of us know…sometimes how we feel about a ring is different when it’s “on”.)
Congrats! So excited for you!
Post # 9

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Blushing bee
Same reaction here. I was too chicken to walk inside.
Post # 10

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Busy bee
I think it was a pretty cute reaction too π Why not look online at style you like and then try them on in store later??
But this>> We pass one of the jewelry stores (I always make sure I’m not looking at them)<< You’re so much better than me. I always mutter, “Sparkle!!”
Post # 11

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Sugar bee
I’m going to do some serious googling; and do what you guys suggest – check them out in person as well. I have serious money hang-ups (I feel guilty about big purchases and debt). So I tried to find out what dollar figure he preferred me to stay under while looking and he said not to worry about it, just figure out what style you like for now. But styles can change as well depending on your price range. I offered to pay for half and he refused. Baby steps I guess. It’s just such a big purchase and you only get one choice, so the pressure to pick the right one… guess I see where the pressure is for guys. π
Post # 12

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Bumble bee
So any ideas of what you would like now??? π
Post # 13

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Sugar bee
No. π I sent him one idea last week. I was testing the water. It was a tacori and I thought it was pretty. But I think so many are pretty. I also sent him some simple bands as an option since I don’t know where he is wanting to stay financially. I think I’d actually have to see something in person…maybe. I’m waiting for that “This is the one” ring feeling I see so many of you ladies have.
Post # 14

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Bumble bee
@claireos: YAYYY!!! Exciting!!!!!!!!
Post # 15

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Busy Beekeeper
Lol. A little warning would have been nice. π But at least you know what he’s thinking now! I think PPs have covered anything else – start looking and getting an idea, and then ask him when he wants to go look in a store again. Just go try some on – but with some warning for you next time. π