Post # 32
I think it sounds like a lot of fun! By me trick or treating is done on the 31st no matter what day of the week it falls on.
I went to a wedding several years ago that fell a few days before Halloween and they too did the masquerade mask thing. The wedding colors were very rich jewel tones and I remember it being one of the prettiest weddings I have attended.
I certainly would embrace such an idea!
Post # 33
You could definitely do a halloween wedding and keep it elegant and not childish. I found this halloween inspiration shoot recently, and it’s gorgeous! Maybe it will help give you some more ideas in addition to those other bees have already posted!
The rest of the shoot is here.
Post # 34
Thanks for the replies! For those that have mentioned older guests not approving/participating, we have a unique situation.. all of my grandparents passed away last year and he only has one grandfather living that will attend. So, everyone will be under 40 with the exception of our parents and the one grandparent (who are all awesome and would love it.)
You raised a great point regarding the “sexy costumes” that are so popular. Good to think about.
Post # 35
You could make it a specific kind of era, like renaissance or Victorian ( or another era you might like ) so you can avoid the sexy/cheap looking costumes. People can usually rent these types of more elaborate costumes from a local costume store. Or you could just have on the invite “tasteful costumes encouraged” or tell people in person or on the phone that guideline.
Post # 36
We’re having the Halloween wedding we always wanted…in September. LOL! We just couldn’t swing an October date, but we decided that we wouldn’t change what we wanted just because we couldnt’ get a certain date. Admittedly, we’re not doing costumes, but it’s still going to be a blast.
I wouldn’t so much “require” costumes, but say something like “costumes encouraged” or something along those lines.
Post # 37
I’d say costumes encouraged not required. that’s great how excited he is, I say definitely go with it! You can really make it beautiful!
Post # 38
Thanks for the suggestions so far!
What about this (previously suggested).. We simply have a costume trunk/props for the reception? I’m thinking about things like animal ears/headbands, oversized glasses, masks, feather boas, etc..
Kind of like the stuff used in photo booths so people can be festive if they choose to? Love this image:
I wish I could word it so people knew the should dress appropriate for the ceremony but they could bring a costume for the reception or choose to accessorize from our costume trunk. But logistically, if 30 people brought a costume, where would they change? So I don’t know if that would work.
I also thought about the whole “Do you want sexy kittens running around” issue. I seriously thought of every guest and not a single friend I have would do something like that. I’m just “talking” out loud at this point..
Post # 39
i say go for it. my fiance and i are having a halloween wedding this year and i cant wait. everyone in our immediate families are very excited for it. and really who cares what anyone else thinks? as long as you have fun and are with the one you love thats all you need. i wouldnt require costumes tho. we just wrote costumes are strongly encouraged on the invite. and on our website i made a list of easy costumes from home including showing up as a wedding guest.
Post # 40
I have a friend that had drama with this when it came to children and this may help you in your decision.
She was invited to her cousin’s wedding, it was on Halloween, she did not go because she wanted to celebrate halloween with her daughter. This led to discourse where the cousin now refuses to attend any of her events, including her daughter’s birthday parties.
I think your case will be fine as it is not on the 31st. Sometimes people have parties before that day, but it is usually adult parties.
I would not mind wearing a costume.
Post # 41
Great idea with the suggestions on your site! Out of curiousity, are you having a religious ceremony?
Post # 42
No we aren’t. My fiance is very agnostic so we chose not to include religion in our ceremony and I’m comfortable enough with my religious beliefs that I don’t believe my G-d will be upset. That being said we are going to be having a more elegent ceremony compared to our reception.
Post # 43
Anyone who is going to judge that it’s not “grown up” or “mature” enough needs to understand something. Baby pink everywhere, princess gowns, tossing flowers at single women, and many other traditional and “acceptable” things that are common at weddings can appear to be just as immature, to a judging sort. BUT I don’t judge the couple for having these things because it’s what they want.
Weddings don’t have to be ultra-serious affairs, and the party should NOT be an indicator as to whether the couple is “mature” or taking it seriously.
I’m officiating a Halloween wedding this year, the bride and groom will be in costume, and I think it’s costume optional (though it could be mandatory). They’re both in their mid-late 30’s (not immature, not children) and love Halloween. The reception is going to be a huge Halloween party. I don’t see why that’s less acceptable than a big pretty princess affair with blush and grass table runners, gilt chargers, and vintage milk glass centerpieces.
Post # 44
Well said and great point!
Post # 45
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I like the idea of a Halloween-theme, but I wouldn’t want to wear a costume to a wedding. I always struggle with coming up with something to wear for Halloween- I’d much rather wear one of my pretty dresses that I never get to wear.
You could have candy cane martinis, black cats for escort cards, pumpkin pie… Maybe you and Fiance change into costumes half way through the reception, or for the last hour? I think there’s a lot you can do with this- just not a fan of making guests dress a certain way. (Plus my “pirate wench” Halloween costume is NOT wedding-appropriate!!)
Post # 46
@sweetdee522: I would say ‘costumes appreciated’.. and Trick or Treat is on Sundays around here…