(Closed) He wants my hair down, but I want it up – Which do I do??

posted 7 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

What is it with men???? LOL my Fiance told me I have to have my hair down for the wedding when I was planning a nice up-do… I am having mine indoors though.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You should wear your hair however will make you feel prettiest.

On the day of the wedding he’s going to be overwhelmed by how beautiful you look and he honestly probably won’t care if your hair is up or down.

If you want to compromise, maybe you could wear it up for the ceremony and then take out the bottom part for the reception, so you’re left w/ half up/half down.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m wearing my hair up for the ceremony and down for the reception. maybe you hairdresser can figure something out for you?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Split the difference, half up and half down.

I think most guys want their brides to resemble how they normally look.  That’s what they fell in love with!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

What about a half up/half down hairdo? 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

could you do half up? so its pulled out of your face

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

My Fiance also wants my hair down so we met half way and i will have my hair half up

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Um, it’s your hair. You should wear it how you want it!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

When I was planning my dress, hair, and make-up, I tried to think of what my husband would like as much as possible.  My thought on it is this… that day is about you and your dear husband.  Not anyone else.  I wanted to look like what he had dreamed of.  Now, I say that, but my Darling Husband and I have very similar taste.  I wanted my hair up & loose, and he loved that. 

Maybe ask him what “down” means to him.  Sometimes men think they know more about hair then they do.  Maybe to him, down is just having some down. Or just loose and not in a tight updo. Maybe that could help you make your decision a little better.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@ManciasToBe:  I hope you don’t mind but I’m going to send your hair inspiration board to my stylist for ideas–this is EXACTLY the hairstyle I want!

@franks.katie:  I have to agree with PPs, maybe a half up, half down hairstyle would be best.  When I think of beach weddings, I always think of loose, flowy, long hair and not severe up-do’s.  If my wedding was on the beach I would definitely have it down, but I’m concerned that it will look too beachy/informal for my venue.  I have the same hair as you–long, fine, but lots of it.  I think the proper amount of hairspray and a little of it pulled back should be fine all day.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Does he know how your dress looks? My hubby told me his preference, but in the end he said I should go with what looked best with my dress. A good compromise would be to wear it half up and half down.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I agree with others with half up half down look for ceremony. And the later you could pin it all up so it doesn’t get too tangled and you don’t have to worry about the wind.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would do what you want. I’m wearing my super long hair up for much the same reason. It’s going to be hot and my hair is unruly when its down. FH mentioned having my hair down and I told him he was crazy.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You might be able to find a happy medium and wear it half up and half down as some other bee’s suggested.  I’m wearing extensions to get a longer length curl and more volume but I am also concerned about my curls falling out or it getting blown around and looking messy (we are getting married by the water as well)

  So my hair stylest is going to subtley pin up the curls going all the way down the back of my hair so that it all stays where its supposed to.  That plus a ton of hairspray should keep everything in place.

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