(Closed) He wants sentimental, I want food, or sthg that wont go in the trash. ideas?

posted 6 years ago in Favors
  • poll: Should the favor be:
    Personalized trinket : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Edible : (23 votes)
    41 %
    Edible with photowrapper/monogram tag, etc. : (18 votes)
    32 %
    No Favor. : (11 votes)
    20 %
    No Favor but put their cupcake at their place setting so it looks like they got something : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    2183 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

    We did a mix of the two. We had personalized decks of playing cards with personalized m&ms, reece’s and mints. I wanted something a little more substantial than just candy.

    Post # 4
    5073 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ve never kept any personalized favors.   I have, however, eaten all the edible favors.

    I’d say go for food.   It can be as simple as little boxes of M&Ms.  You can find those little boxes at lots of stores.

    Post # 5
    1217 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It sounds like your Fiance wants something personal… Is there any way you can make the favors something personal? e.g. my Fiance is a chemical engineer, and his family is Persian – Persians drink a lot of tea – so our favors are loose-leaf tea in test tubes. Hopefully our guests will take it home and drink the tea, and yet it’s also something that is subtly personal 🙂

    Post # 6
    5475 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Could you do little tulle or organza baggies with some kind of edible favor, but use a personalized ribbon to tie it shut?  Or get personalized candies?  What about cookies with your monogram &/or wedding date?

    Post # 7
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I usually don’t like personalized favors but I actually like the book mark idea.  It’s useful but not so important that I really care what it looks like so it wouldn’t bother me to have someone else’s photo on it.  It might actually be a nice reminder of the day.

    I’m not a fan of edible favors unless it’s something unique to the couple or the area or very luxurious.  For example, a bag of hersheys kisses or M&Ms is going in the trash.  Whereas some macarons, truffles, or regional delicacy will be very enjoyable.  The only exception to this I would say is jordan almonds. Yes they’re common but man they’re so good.

    you should post a poll to get more opinions.

    Post # 8
    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I don’t actually know anyone who uses physical books (it’s all kindles and nooks!) so a bookmark is a bad idea. And really, I think anything with you guys’ names or a pic of you is a bad idea! Nobody wants personalized stuff. A little thing of candy or cookies or whatever will be much more appropriate and won’t go to waste. Otherwise, I vote don’t have favors.

    Post # 9
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I actually like the bookmark idea.

    One time I got small candle with the name of the bride and groom on it. I’ve also gotten wine glasses that we still use. These are useful, but some people will still throw them out. You can’t please everyone, so bottom line I wouldn’t spend very much on the favors.

    Post # 10
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Get some sort of candy/food item and tie on a cute little personal message card!

    Post # 11
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Maybe it would help him if you asked “Honestly, if we got a bookmark (or similar item) with a picture of [insert names of couple that you know] on it, would YOU use it?”

    Because very few people want tchotchkes with other couples’ photos on them around the house. It’s just kind of weird.

    Post # 12
    46682 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Compromise on having no favors. Use the money to take yourselves out to a romantic dinner on your honeymoon.

    Post # 13
    5095 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @julies1949:  Ha, + 1

    Also, OP, I love your user name.

    Post # 14
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    what about something like a homemade book mark/card- made of seeded paper that they can then PLANT.

    eco seeded paper is very easy to find… we are doing mini tree seedlings, as we are having a wedding near xmas time..a  LOT of our guests love gardens and plants so we know the trees will get to good use.

    the best of both worlds… get a food favor ( candy,cookie etc,)- tie a seeded favor on, put a cute message!

    this way the Fi will get sentiment and you get the food!

    heres a link to one of the sites:http://www.daisy-days.com/plenfa.html

    Post # 15
    3667 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Can you compromise? Maybe a personalized box with something edible in it?

    Post # 16
    699 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MsVoyageur:  That’s such a fantastic idea!  I love it.


    I’d second/millionth the “don’t spend much money” and “don’t personalize it all goes in the trash.”

    The playing cards are not a bad idea, as most people don’t actually care what’s on them and keep them for holding onto.  I wonder if you can get some with an image that represents the two of you, but isn’t you or your wedding?  Similar to the test tube tea idea.  A photo of an iconic place (ie if you met while on exchange to Paris), your alma mater, images of your home city, etc.  These might be more than you want to spend though.

    If you’re just looking to compromise, bookmarks are cheap, people don’t really care what’s on them… I usually use a receipt or whatever’s near, but know that most will still just put them in the trash.

    What about jam, syrup, honey, wine or vinegar with custom labels?  That would probably kill two birds with one stone.


    There are a bunch of 1 oz glass jars of jam on amazon, they’re about $0.50/ea.  You could do one or two, or a few, and design a logo/monogram for a sticker to put on the lids.  

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