Post # 1
So I see lots of us here talking about the proposal of our dreams but what about him? Last night my SO expressed that he would like the proposal to be the one of his dreams, how he imagines doing it. It opened my eyes to the obvious reality that it would be an US moment not just a ME moment.
Has anyone talked to their SO about how they imagine proposing? Or if the proposal was magical for them as well?
Post # 2
That is definitely an eye-opener. There is such a ‘Me Me Me’ attitude among a lot of women and they forget that without their SO there wouldn’t be a proposal at all.
Post # 3
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
Personally, I very much knew my Fiance wanted the proposal he had been planning for, and I think that’s why it gets so upsetting when some bees don’t understand why some couples “wait” even after they both have the ring and know they want to get married. We had both discussed it in depth, I knew he had the ring and I knew a proposal was imminent. It was so exciting and yes, I wanted that moment…but so did he. I know if I had just told him, ‘Hey, we both know I’m going to say yes, you already have the ring so let’s just call ourselves engaged’, that he would have been EXTREMELY disappointed. It’s not just about one person, it’s about both people who want this special moment to truly make it feel official to them.
Post # 4
Fiance is such an easygoing guy. He just wanted it to be a nice proposal, and it was. If you get to the core of it, all you really need for an ideal proposal is a “yes” from both parties.
Post # 5
All I told my guy was that I’d know he was being serious about it if he was down on one knee. Didn’t care how/where he proposed, so I left it up to him to surprise me! I also didn’t specify a day or anything so he chose a random day when I wasn’t expecting it which I loved!
Post # 6
YES. THIS. I know a proposal is coming, but I also know that my Boyfriend or Best Friend wants to do things how he envisioned it.
Post # 7
That is such a sweet thing for him to say. It’s neat that he has a vision of it and being special for you but also really special for him. The most common thread i’ve heard from friends’ fiances, my brother, and brother in law is that they were just so nervous!! They almost just wanted to ‘get it over with’, not in a bad way, but just wanted to get the words out and propose and get the Yes answer! Lol. My friend from work said her DH planned a big night for his engagement plan and he proposed before they even left the house because he was so anxious he couldn’t wait a moment longer 🙂
Post # 8
Yeah, my Fiance definitely had exactly how he wanted to do it (and with what ring, even) planned out years in advance.
Good thing I ended up loving everything or else I would have made that sucker propose all over again.
KIDDING KIDDING KIDDING.
Post # 9
This is so true. I know my boyfriend would want a huge proposal with everyone there (friends, family, etc) whereas I know I want it to be just the two of us. I don’t mind if it’s in public, I guess I just don’t want every single friend and family member to know he’s going to propose before I do.
However, I know it’ll be special whatever he does and I think he knows my preferences, so I bet he’ll have some sort of in-between. He’s good like that 🙂
Post # 10
My boyfriend has always insisted that the proposal should be a complete surprise, even down to the ring. Last year we were gifted with a heirloom wedding set that we decided to pull the stones from to set in a custom setting. He told me the rings were done a few weeks ago and asked me to come pick them up with him to make sure they fit. Instead I told him I wanted the final reveal to be a surprise and his face lit up, oh it was so sweet haha. I am DYING to see them and make sure everything was done right but I’m patiently waiting. I’m happy he still gets to have that element of surprise because i know it’s really important to him, even though I don’t care much about that aspect of it.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2016 - Akron, OH
I’ve told him casually what I want, but I end up changing my mind so much that it doesn’t matter. I ended up just telling him what I don’t want. I’m sure whatever he has planned I’ll be okay with. Well, I’ll have to be okay with it. It’s his idea, and I love HIM. The proposal never matters in the end, and neither does the ring. It’s the premise of marriage and what it stands for that’s the ultimate goal. Everything else is just a precursor. (:
Post # 12
- Wedding: March 2016 - Modern, Classic, Fun
sounds like my Fiance — he always said he wanted a dream proposal so he really outdid himself with an elaborate proposal that he was proud of. He always said, the wedding is all about the bride and what she wants, the proposal was something he was in control over!
Post # 13
He is planning it so it should be tailored to his taste.i gave no imput to my proposal except not completely public (a friends was recently in the news because of her flash mob proposal- good for her, she loved it but not my style.) He wouldn’t want it to be completely public either. Come to think of it, he did plan a perfect proposal for both of us, it totally fit him.
Post # 14
I control a lot of things in my life and always have, proposing to me was his thing and I saw no point in becoming involved in the logistics.. Especially given the fact that I have given approximately zero thought to a proposal or marriage at any point in my life until he told me he wanted to marry me.
He proposed to me the way he planned to. It wouldn’t even cross my mind to take that away from him and boss him around… He’s asking to spend the rest of his life with me, chilling the fuck out and letting him do it his way only makes sense.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2020 - Venice, Italy
Why would you want to plan your own proposal?. thats the mans time to shine. hes excited . i am not engaged yet…but my SO did ask recently how i would like to be propsed to and i said just make it a total suprise and make sure you ask my dad for his blessing. i really want it to be about him