Post # 1
My boyfriend has said that he will take this summer to look at/price/choose an engagement ring for me! So exciting! (I know the actual buying will probably take place fall/winter, but with that info I’ll be crazy by August.)
Issue: He wants to surprise me with the ring itself, not just the future proposal. (gah!) He doesn’t want any input from me. He has good taste, so I’m sure the ring will be pretty but…
1) I want to give him ideas! Anyone else ever been presented with the Engagement Ring sans input? How did you keep yourself from interfering? How did your fiances/husbands choose something you’d like?
2) I almost never wear rings. When I do, I play with them and I’ve lost rings before. But, he knows all that and still wants to get me a ring…so I’ll have to find a way to keep it safe. Are there any bees who just can’t keep a ring on without fooling around with it? What do you do about it? Buy a necklace chain, perhaps?
Post # 3
@Helium: Maybe you could give him an idea of shapes you like and if you have any definite no’s like ‘I really dislike halos’ to at least point him the right direction without picking it out?
Post # 4
I agree with Treeline that you should tell him certain things you definitely dislike and then give him the freedoms to surprise from there.
Post # 5
@Helium: Oh and I fool with my ring all the time, insurance makes me worry less.
Post # 6
Just give your best friends, family, etc. details on what you like and they will pass the word along. Just don’t do it with too many people or he’ll get frazzled and confused. Choose like 3 people to drop hints.
I lose everything that is smaller than my hand, especially when I am distracted. I just set it down to grab something else and I forget. Phones, keys, my wireless computer mouse, very premature babies, anything goes. I’ve never lost my e-ring because I have ONE designated spot for it. This means that if it comes off I MUST put it there or put it back on my finger. No other option. I do go through phases with my Engagement Ring, and sometimes I don’t wear it. Like for the last month, I’ve been a bit stressed and fidgety, and I just don’t want to deal with keeping up with it. Fiance has it. I know this sounds like an odd thing for some people, but I know myself. In fact, lost my cell at a craft store a few weeks ago while thinking and imagining wedding things. Being distracted + small objects is not a good combo for me. I’d put it on a necklace but I’m afraid it would get caught on something and slip off, my friend lost her ring that way.Necklaces closures sometimes give out without any pull too.
I’ll probably start wearing it again in a few weeks when things settle down. My Fiance does not mind at all. Our love is more than a tradition.
Post # 7
When FH and I got serious I told him I wanted to choose my own ring; I am a bit of a control freak and I figured since I’m going to be wearing it for the rest of my life it needs to be something I really love. But now that we have chosen the ring and it has been bought I feel really bad that I have taken that fun, special experience away from him. If I could go back I would definitely relinquish control and let him surprise me.
Maybe, like PPs have said, you should just let him know what you like and what you hate and leave the rest to him.
Post # 8
My SO is like this. He’s actually said that I won’t be getting any of the rings i directly point out to him, since he wants it to be a gift from him that he picked out, not something he just bought for me. I told him that I was ok with that, but he had to be ok with me potencially returning it if it was something I didn’t like. I gave him a list of a few must haves and must not haves (it must have a halo, it must not be square, for example), and then let him pick it out. It’s important to him, so I let him have that. I’ am picky though, so giving him a list of things I wanted made me feel better.