(Closed) He wants to be married… he’s just avoiding being engaged.

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1295 posts
Bumble bee

@Dreamer12781:  All I can advice if I were in  your shoes is to sit him down once again and tell him how serious you are about yall getting married.  I would suggest telling him the reason why it means so much to him is because you want to get married and spend the rest of your lives together.  In the end that’s what the most important thing to you.  The party isn’t a party but rather a celebration of your new lives together as husband and wife that your family and friends get to be a part of.  Just reassure him that your not going to turn into a bridezilla at least you’ll try your hardest not to.  I hope this helps.

Post # 4
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Try to outline reasons why you want to be married and not just have a big party.  Try to vocalize those things frequently.  I think talking to my husband about things like, we will get a new grill after we get married, we will set up a joint account after we are married, let him see that there were logical reasons I wanted to get married not just to have a big party.

Post # 5
193 posts
Blushing bee

@Dreamer12781: I totally hear where you’re coming from. My b/f talks about our ‘wedding’, our ‘house’, our ‘kids’… EVERYTHING BUT ENGAGEMENT. I finally had to tell him that unless I had a ring on my finger, I don’t want to talk about it anymore. He still talks about it, but I remind him that we still need to get engaged first. That’s when he goes silent.

I don’t understand men. Sometimes they really bug me.


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