(Closed) He wants to break up

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am really sorry sweetie, I really hope you guys work this out for the best. 🙁 

Post # 33
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

has he had any other strange behaviours? apart from calling it quits? he hasn’t been thinking about someone else has he? He really owes you an explanation straight up you both have been together for 5yrs its too much to just throw away without hiim giving you the righ to talk. Maybe he was really hurt that another guy (your ex) had contacted you and was jealos and reacted by letting you go. Maybe he needs to see that you want him so badly – and that you will go back to him. Who knows. An age gap shouldn’t matter – maybe he is just making sure you feel so strongly for him – I mean why would a guy propose if he wasn’t head over heels for you???

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Ms CH:  I think it’s a good idea to write the letter.  I do agree, though, that you don’t want to come across as “waiting” for him.

I’m not sure he knows what he’s feeling right now.  The whole “I’m no good for you!” thing seems like a cop-out, to me.  I think there may be other reasons here, and he’s using this as an excuse.

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

i think it is an excuse and not a very good one at that. but as you know, there is no use trying to change someone’s mind. you will forever be wondering and trying to change it even if you do succeed this time.

whatever the excuse, the underlying issue is that he wants to walk away. let him. if he doesn’t want to fight for you, he’s not worth your love.

Post # 37
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2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@atlbride2013:  lol can’t say my DH was excited about any details related to the wedding besides the fact that he was marrying me. I think that is enough, but for him to sound like he wasn’t even interested in the OP is concerning …

Post # 38
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

22 year old gap. He is 48 and you are 26. you want kids by next year and he will be 49 by then and by the time they are 10 he will be 58 and will be dealing with teenagers when he is in his 60s or 70s. you love him but hes looking for a reason to break up because age is a factor. if age is a factor now it will always be a factor with counselling or not. it wont changet the fact that it will always be seen as if hes taking advantage of a woman young enough to be his child. he has never been married at his age wow. commitment issues. and to run away from people his age he dates back meaning he dates people way younger than he is. this man has issues and the mid life crisis. why did he let the relationship get to engagement phase if he was concerned about the age thing. and about the fact that you have broken hearts before and you think this is karma…yes i believe so too because what goes around comes around whether you like it or not. and in other cases you know he doesnt want to be with you dont force him and move on to people your age range. he has a right to feel the way he feels because its true. love is a decision and even though you chose each other there has been a decision that this wont work in the long run. sorry for your heart break.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@lilsweetie:  Yep, pretty much this.

 

You cannot make a relationship work if he does not want to. If he is fixated that he is too old for you, then it will never work.

I wish you all the best for a fresh start.

 

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