(Closed) He wants to cancel the honeymoon?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@Luxuryshoegal88: I would downgrade to have to pay as little out of pocket as possible, can you use points to pay the difference?  Where is the honeymoon supposed to be?

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I wouldn’t cancel it… sounds like everything’s practically paid for! How much left will you have to spend on your trip?

I’d look into other hotels & see if you can find a cheaper one. I wouldn’t upgrade because you said you could save $100/day by switching… & I’m sure you would spend less than $100/day on food even if you ate out every meal, so the upgrade won’t really save you anything.

& why isn’t his job paying him? Is he looking for a new job? Also, he should demand his paycheck. He should look into filling a claim as its illegal for them to not pay their employees! Make sure you’re keeping a record of his worked hours as well. I have a friend who’s boss just decided not to pay her or any of his employees & he got in a LOT of trouble for not paying them & huge fines.

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

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@Luxuryshoegal88: 

If you owed nothing else on it, I’d say go and eat/entertain as cheaply as possible. But if you owe another $1650 on the hotel on TOP of what you’ve paid, I really don’t see how you could justify going. A week’s vacation is not worth getting behind on your car and mortgage payments, especially if you don’t know when your husband is going to get paid. I KNOW it sucks, but you can’t afford that $1650 on top of food and everything else for the trip. It doesn’t make financial sense. 

Oh and I just saw that this is in Hawaii. There’s really no way to “do” Hawaii very cheaply, I’m sorry. It’s an expensive place. I really wouldn’t go. You need the week at home for your husband to file his labor claim and try to find another paying job in the interim. 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

I would explain the situation to the hotel and ask for a downgrade.  But I sure as hell wouldn’t throw away 3000 bucks.

In other news, why is your change fee so expensive?  Shouldn’t it be about 300 bucks for both tickets ($150 per ticket)

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

30k?! Wow, can’t his boss pay him anything? Yes its illegal for him to not have been paid already, but see if he can get a partial paycheck or something. He can tell his boss he’s leaving for his honeymoon & needs the money, even if its only a partial paycheck.

Yea I’d definately downgrade/ get a new hotel if you’ll have to pay that much. To me, its not worth it to NOT go, since you’ll have lost $3k… but if you’re worried about paying your mortgage, I’d downgrade as much as possible so you won’t really have to spend even more money.

So sorry :(.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m pretty sure you’ll be able to get a hotel for maybe even 1/2 the cost of the price you would’ve paid… you should check out priceline.com.

I sent you a PM 🙂

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

ditto everyone else about downgrading the hotel and going on the trip.  when you get there, hit the local grocery store and stock up on food.  no restaurants, no bars, etc.  just good old fashioned PBR and PB&J.  SO and I use this method to allow us to travel more in general and it works like a charm; spend $50 at the grocery store and read books, walk, watch movies, etc.  that way your out of pocket expenses when you get there are minimal.

*on a plus note, staying in bed all day is free 😉

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Well I hope you get to go.  Please be sure to let us know, we are all routing for you!

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I vote cancel now so you can work towards becoming more financially stable…and start saving for a honeymoon that can take place in the future.  DH and I did this and never for one second regretted it!  Had we chosen to do a honeymoon right after we got married (if time had allowed it) would have financially wrecked ourselves.  That’s not exactly how you want to start a marriage is it?  We spent a year busting our butts and were able to take an amazing honeymoon!

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee

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@Luxuryshoegal88:  You just reminded me (and it is probably too late to do this).  Can you get a credit card that has a zero percent interest for 6-12 months.  That way you can go and not worry about paying for a bit.  ONLY DO THIS IF YOU KNOW YOU HAVE THE CASH TO PAY LATER (aka don’t go nuts once you get to Hawaii and take out the Presidential Suite).

If you cannot get an approval and have the card delivered and activated right now, can you search out a CC that has a low low balance transfer rate and then zero percent purchase rate for a year or so.  You can pay for the remainder of your honeymoon on an existing card and then transfer over.  I once transferred like 12K for about $150 (so you’d be losing like a couple of hundred dollars rather than $2K).  I obviously paid the balance off within the alotted time.  I cannot stress how much how you have to pay on time!

Post # 46
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with JsDragonfly.  If you both can’t afford it, then you can’t afford it.  Plus I don’t think your hubby is changing his story necessarily.  It’s not his fault that situations doesn’t turn out as planned.  I’m sure it’s not his intentions and I’m sure he wouldn’t want to dissapoint you about not having a honeymoon.  And at least he’s being upfront and honest with you instead of just going along as if nothing’s wrong and finding out later.  Also, now that you both are married, it’s not his and hers expenses anymore, but rather “both.”  And last, if you do end up going to your honeymoon, would you still worry about the money situation during the honeymoon?  It wouldn’t be much R&R and honeymoon if your mind is elsewhere.

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