Post # 77
There is an expression “Don’t throw good money after bad” Going on this honeymoon is just throwing good money after bad.
When you booked the flight and hotel, you didn’t know that this would be the situation, so no fault there. But throwing away ‘good’ money, when you now know the situation is just foolish.
Yes loosing the 2,800 is bad but I could never justify another at least 3,000 dollars when your house and cars are on the line. Though I am not sure that there is nothing you can do. How much is the fee to transfer the flights? And I have cancelled hotel reservations (even in Starwood hotels, where you mentioned you are staying) up to 24 hours ahead and have never been charged.
You still owe 1,600 on the hotel, + 1,000 on a car rental + at least 1,000 on food and entertainment. So spending 3,600 + to not waste 2,800 is not sound logic. The only thing worse then loosing 2,800 is losing 6,400 to go on a vacation with someone you aren’t really too thrilled with at the moment.
Post # 78
Wow. I would be livid that he hadn’t shared his financial troubles with me sooner if he knew you were really in such a bind. If he’d told you earlier, then you both could have worked together to pare down both the wedding and the honeymoon so that you could save some money.
I’m really glad to hear that you’re seeing how damaging his actions were, and I hope you can get into some counselling together. It’s okay for couples to have separate accounts, but I think there needs to be a hell of a lot of open communication between them for that to work. They also have to work really hard to make sure things are equitable between them. Right now, you’re not getting that communication or effort from him, and it’s unfair to you.
Post # 79
Thanks for the input. My parent’s came through and said they didn’t want to see us start off our marriage like this and paid for the balance on the hotel. So luckily I get a great deal on a car $233/wk and we will be eating on a very tight budget and bringing some food with us as well. We’ve both agreed it’s best if we go to counseling when were home so we can learn to communicate better. I appreciate everyone who has helped me through this, it means more than words could ever explain.
Post # 80
If its any help, Fiance and I would eat at the bar at some restaurants instead of in the restaurant. The prices were more reasonable and it was a more relaxed atmosphere. I hope that you are able to relax a bit while you are there! There’s so much you can do on the island just driving around and siteseeing. Plus who doesn’t love laying on the beach/pool! There’s a Walmart on the island too. You might want to stop there the first day and pick up some food etc. Its pretty close to the airport but not close to the popular resort areas.
Post # 81
Thanks for the great tips!
When my husband and I first became engaged I bought a pair of Louboutins on eBay that I just had to have for my wedding day. They were norm. $3400 and I decided last night to put them on eBay and happy to say they sold today for $1500. I feel like an angel was watching over me. I’d never wear those shoes again as they were covered in crystals and I love that I am passing them on to another fashionista and am now fully able to go on the Honeymoon without using any of my credit cards. Yay! 🙂
Post # 82
Yay, glad it worked out! You’re still planning on going to see a marriage counselor, right?