Post # 1
I was on here not long ago because I had a hunch that my bf might propose sometime before the year is out. Now he has said that he wants us to get married this coming summer! I’m so excited, but now I feel anxious about being able to plan a wedding in only a few months. The tricky thing is, we are LDR and both live really far away from our families and where we’d like to have the wedding. Also, we only see each other on holidays, so I’m not expecting a proposal for at least the next 2-3 months, unless he’s REALLY good at surprises and is going to appear in my town much sooner than expected.
Without being officially engaged, I feel weird about starting to plan a wedding. It seems like my SO doesn’t realize how involved wedding planning actually is, or if he does know, he doesn’t care. I’ve mentioned to him that I’d like to have time to get together with my sisters to pick a dress, and that we might want to get a jump on planning if he wants to be married 9 months from now. But he kind of brushed off my suggestion that we start planning now. I’m sure that if I just sit back and stop worrying about it, he’ll propose soon enough and everything will be fine.
But how do I get myself to stop thinking about it? I catch myself starting to feel annoyed, when I ought to be overjoyed.
Post # 3
i would suggest starting to get some ideas together of what you want now since your talking less than a year at this point. start parusing venues and thinking of color themes and whatnot i have specific folders on my computer full of wedding stuff even though im not technically engaged yet(SO told me he was thinking fall of 2012) so im like you for time restraints. i would start getting ideas together and figure out what you want so when he does propose you can be like “here this is what i have found what do you think” it will save you frantic searching later and if there are diy stuff you want to get done you can start now and store it in a box or something.
Post # 4
@aprose: Totally agree with you on this.
That may be his subtle way of giving you a hint that he is about to propose (guys aren’t very good with that hehe). But, the looking and semi-planning can be fun! I don’t want a long engagement, so I have been shooting some emails to potential vendors just to get an idea on pricing. Nothing wrong with doing that!
Post # 5
@Hbomb84: not at all as long as you dont put down deposits and all fo that before consulting with your SO then your fine. getting a feel for the market is perfectly acceptable in my opinion and will help you be more oraganized and realistic when its time to finalize plans
Post # 6
@aprose: Exactly. My SO would think that I was caaarrrraazy if I already had the whole wedding planned!