- 7 years ago
I wasn’t sure where to post this so I put it in waiting but it could have gone in babies, 40 +, or even military 🙂
My FH and I have talked marriage and we both are feeling that a summer proposal and spring 2012 destination wedding would be perfect. We wanted to start trying for a baby pretty much right away, if not slightly before our wedding due to my age, and that we are both ready, financially and emotionally.
Well recently I went under a whole bunch of different tests, blood work and ultra sound to see how viable it might be for me to get pregnant. See, I just turned 40. Turns out I got a green light on all accounts. I am good to go. But of course, my doctor said to not wait forever. That fertility drops off starting at 35 and then from 40-43 changes drastically.
I had always pictured getting pregnant *after* getting married. But now that we know that I am most likely very able to get preggers, but time is *seriously* ticking, he suggested that we start trying, pronto. So… I said I’d meet him half way. I told him that if all is going to plan with the engagement, and we were engaged by say, June, I would be willing to start trying right then. But there go my dreams of wearing my perfect dress and drinking champagne on the beach with my love on my wedding night.
All this to say, even if I DO get pregnant, it may not happen right away, but then again it could happen first try!
Do you think I’m crazy to give up my “dream” or image of how I thought it would all go down. Or is it crazy to possibly miss this small window I have of getting pregnant? (the 6/8 months difference between our engagement and our wedding is apparantly pretty huge in the life of a 40 year old~)
And finally, to add in, my FH is in the military, which means he could get deployed. If he does it would most likely be for 6-8 months starting in July! So that would definitely push things off baby-making wise.
I feel pretty great about my decision about engagement/try for baby/marriage agreement.
What do you Bees think?
PS: I’m super sorry for how stupid-long this post is