Post # 1
So, the Best man emails us today asking if he can wear a mohawk for the wedding. I don’t want to say no because he is 28 years old and should be able to wear his hair as he feels comfortable, but at the same time, this is our wedding that we have spent thousands of dollars on and will have a photographer there to capture the day from start to end. Do I really want a mohawk in all of our pictures.
I did say in my reply to “please use your best judgement, and if you still are not sure, ask your wife, she will decide for you”
Post # 3
Haha, love the response. Usually I would say ‘Let them do whatever they want’ but a mohawk would distract from you and your groom.
Post # 4
Hahaha that’s an excellent response. I’m sure his wife will veto that for you!
Post # 5
Ok, are we talking about a foot tall neon green classic punk mohawk here? Or the little faux-hawk that so many guys wear? It really depends on the formality of the event and what everyone else is wearing. Like if all the guys have kinda spiky hair, no one would notice a faux-hawk. If everyone else there looks like they just stepped out of a young republican convention, anything different will stand out.
Post # 6
@emf51912: why is this an issue?
We are in our 30’s though, and most of our friends have something. Tattoo, colorful hair, personal style that is different from our own. My challange is how to keep our friends, well, looking like our friends. I love all these things about them, and I consider most of them to be family, expecially if they are in our wedding party. I know what my family looks like, and thats what I want at my wedding.
Post # 7
@emf51912: Could you ask him to put off the mohawk until May 20th? That’s only a month and a half to go without a mohawk, which doesn’t sound like an unreasonable request. It would be one thing if he had a mohawk for awhile, but if it’s a recent decision then I think he can wait.
Post # 8
@MariContrary: Even though it has been ages since I have seen this man, I know that it would be the neon green spikey (real) mohawk. He would never show up anywhere with a faux-hauk. This is the man who earned the name spider-man while in Iraq, so he came home and tatoo’d the spiderman costume onto his torso (so he will always be spiderman). He does not do anything half-way!
As for the formality… All of the men will be in Tuxes, it is a sit down formal dinner. A mohawk would deffinately be noticed.
Post # 9
I will never understand this kind of thinking. Its a mohawk!!! let the man have his mohawk.
Post # 10
@MariContrary: +1 That’s what I was wondering. Is it an 8inch mohawk sticking straight up from his head or is he talking more like a faux hawk?
Full out tall mohawk I would not be ok with but a faux hawk, why not? 🙂
Post # 11
@emf51912: After your explanation, I would say no. It would be different if it was small but sounds like he’s a go big or go home kind of guy. I would ask him to put it away for the day.
Post # 12
If he asked you in advance, he’s giving you permission to say no. So say no, but nicely.
Post # 13
I am super impressed that he thought enough to ask you! (But I bet if he asked his wife first, she would have told him NO)
Post # 14
It hurts me to say this, because I adore the full real mohawks and wish fiance had a job that allowed it. But with a sit down dinner and everyone in tuxes, I feel like he would walk in and all the guests would be thinking HOLY HAIR BATMAN! Ceremony no for sure, he’s not supposed to upstage you two. But the reception is the fun part, I could see it being ok for that.
Post # 15
Depending on how long his hair is, he could just wear it down. I had a Mohawk for a while, about 10 in long or so. I wore it down a lot because 1. Its so tall it gets in the way, 2. It takes a lot if time and product to get it up, and 3. It just wasn’t appropriate to have a giant Mohawk sticking up regardless of how many bows and flowers I stuck in it. A Mohawk is a haircut. How he styles it is very different.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@emf51912: If he’s asking then I would say “we would rather that you have a more traditional hairstyle for the wedding.” It’s probably going to look pretty silly when you look back at the wedding photos in 10-20 years.