(Closed) He was going to propose 2 years ago?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That does sound like an excuse. If that was his only issue, and you just cleared it up, is he all ready to propose right now?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Umm.. I dont know how many women would want a ring that her bf picked out for an ex fiance!  He’s a quite in the wrong to say it was selffish imo!  Reusing a diamond is quie different than reusing whole ring.. I suppose unless you actually have the same taste and said that you like that particular ring/style in a picture or something.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

If you didn’t want that ring he could just have easily have sold it and used the money to buy a different one or traded it in or something – it sounds like by using that as a reason to think you’re selfish and to tell you that’s why he didn’t propse – he is playing games.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

So it has taken him 2 years to move on from thinking your selfish? Sounds like he’s just lazy.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with all the ladies above

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree it sounds like an excuse. He needed 2 years to decide you weren’t quite so selfish afterall??  It also strikes me as incredibly immature to ask a question like that, without any context, and then to punish you for an honest answer when you had no idea you were participating in what seemed to be a secret test.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

@KatM:I agree. If it were me I would sit down and seriously think about whether or not I really wanted to marry someone thats going to behave like that.

OP its not selfish or wrong not to want an ex’s ring (using the stone in a new setting is fine). You didnt do anything wrong here its his fault for not following up on his question.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You are one patient woman to wait 2 years before the converstaion even came up again.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Two years is a crazy amount of time to be holding all of this in. Please don’t let something go this long again without talking about it!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - my mother's amazing garden

Wait…. why did you give him your diamonds?!?! Ummm… for what purpose. And it sounds like you need to clarify with him what his intentions are NOW…

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

This one leaves me with a hummm in my mind. This sounds like an excuse to me just like the other ladies said. If was ready to propose to you 2 years ago did he spend the next two years saving up for a ring for you or did he just rested on his laurels all this time? There is nothing wrong with saying, “I don’t want your tired old ex’s ring from your failed marriage” even if it is huge. If he used the words selfish I’d be evaluating a lot more than just the ring situation.

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