(Closed) He went to go “work out” and came back with two people’s phone numbers…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ummm not happening! I think I’d flip. “/

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If ya’lls crossfit is anything like ours here, it’s one big family….they all workout together and talk about their daily workout (WODs) and get excited about snatches….. lol, I’m sure your man knows what I’m referring to. I would be pissed in ANY other situation, but in the crossfit world I wouldn’t…..  and before long he will be on FB posting pics with them of pullups, thrusters, deadlifts, and jerks (no lie) ….. you will get a kick out of it….it’s so cute! They get SOOO excited about their WOD!!!!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Funnily enough, the last digits the SO scored at the gym were mine and that was almost two years ago lol. Embarassed

I wouldn’t be too worried if he did since I know the majority of the people that attend his gym – since I work part-time as a receptionist there. And they’re mostly composed of male body builders, elderly people and 20-30 something guys. Severe shortage of hot girls at the gym. Lots of cute guys though Wink

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve heard from friends who do Crossfit that it is a very tight knit group and people are super welcoming to new-comers. From the sounds of it, it’s probably not something you have to worry about. You could also join him for a class at crossfit so you get a better idea of the atmosphere… who knows maybe you’ll be getting numbers? hahaha. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wouldn’t get worked up. I decided to start doing something for myself this past may so I joined a bootcamp fitness program, and then the boxing gym that most of them were also members of. It really is like crossfit in terms of one big family. I have so many new friends, guys and girls, that I’ve become very close with. I would really hope my Fiance doesn’t question my intentions when I get together with one of them for lunch. We have developed close friendships but a lot of our hanging out consists of talking about our training and what upcoming races we are running. Many of them are coming to my wedding.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

How significant of an other is he?  How long have you been together?  How committed/exclusive is the relationship?  This is a romantic relationship you’re in?  I’d be livid, to say the least.  It’s a no-brainer to not ask for other women’s phone numbers if you’re in a committed/exclusive relationship.  And the fact he told you, it almost sounds as though he thinks of you as only a friend.  How would he feel if you did the same?  However, it really does depend on the agreeement between the two of you.  My Fiance and I would not be cool at all with that behavior from each other.  But to give your guy credit, at least he didn’t hide it from you, that says he’s not up to anything shady.  But it also seems as though he may possibly not be very serious about the relationship with you, because when a man’s in love they just don’t do that, IMO.

ETA:  Maybe the CrossFit tight-knit thing explains it.  Fiance wouldn’t be happy with me if I came home with other guy’s phone numbers from the gym, though, no matter the reason.  But I know everyone’s different so hopefully it’s all ok and nothing to worry about.  Smile

Post # 9
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Honey bee

@teamajax13:   Yeah this. Crossfit is so tight knit. It is more like a team (think of your old college or high school teams) than it is just a class or workout. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It depends if he asked them for the number, or they gave their number to him. If he asked I’d be like “wtf, Danny.” but probably not be that angry because I know dude would never cheat on me. If they gave their numbers to him I’d laugh and make fun of him. Especially since he’s lost weight and muscle mass and he’s a scrawny thing now, it’d be hilarious if he got numbers at the gym. I’d congratulate him on getting the numbers of people who were actually sober. We give each other crap and joke around like that all the time. Either way, if he were up front about it, it wouldn’t really be a big deal to me, but that’s with DANNY. I don’t know what your SO is like or what your relationship is like. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Someone would have broken legs leaving him unable to work out – semijoking, semi serious .

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think the fact that he came and told you he had gotten the numbers is a sign that he has no bad intentions. Most guys wouldnt announce they were planning to start being unfaithful

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@teamajax13:  this!

 

It is like a cult! Be prepared for your man to be sucked in! LOL

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I would flip out. Would not be okay. And then if he told me further that she was his new “workout buddy” the sh** would really hit the fan. Yikes.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Sounds kind of normal for Crossfit. I’d back off and calm down. If you are that concerned, the right thing to do is join him at Crossfit! (though I hate Crossfit)

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@bells:  Yep. This.

He was open and up-front about it. He told you right away… I really wouldn’t be worried or make a big deal about it.

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