- 4 years ago
Back again here. Last post I finally ended it with my ex, after a tumultuous relationship. It took me a lot of guts and hours of him begging me not to go but I finally got the message across that this had to be it.
He left me alone for a good few days until he turned up with more roses (I have never received so many flowers from him – sucks that I have to receive them when everything is falling to pieces, kind of stings a bit when I couldn’t get any roses on our anniversaries or whatnot – just have to vent that) and basically continued trying to talk me into giving him another chance, that things will be great again, etc. Promising me that he will never hurt me or do anything wrong again.
Well I don’t trust him as far as I can throw him. And I’m sick of him contacting me and turning up where I live and making a scene – and telling me about the good times and why we’re perfect for each other and whatnot. Why can’t he just be an arse and stick to that!
And then if I ignore him, he gets upset, threatens to hurt himself or commit suicide or say that he’s really sick and no one cares about him, that his family and friends all don’t care anymore and all he ever wanted is me.
Now, I’m a highly caring and sensitive person and this is really getting to me. I’m not coping, I’ve been to the doctors for anxiety and I’m constantly worried that he will hurt himself. I still have belongings at his house and am afraid to go and get them for the scene he will create – get upset, try to hold and hug me, be really emotional. <br /><br />I JUST WANT TO MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE! I can’t handle this anymore!
Does anyone else have any similar stories? and what you did to solve the problem? I really don’t want to get a restraining order… but why is it so hard to end a relationship? Why is this happening to me? I can’t cope with this, but I can’t cope with being coldhearted and blocking him out.. because I fear that he will either destroy my things or make further scenes at my new house. The only way of dealing with this is to try and diffuse him the best I can, which can take hours. I’m absolutely at my wits end 🙁 Please tell me it will get easier.