He won't let me wear my ring at work. Really upset!

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
2216 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

sdarrach25 :  He won’t “let” you?

You are a grown ass woman. An engagement ring is a gift. It is not for him to dictate where and when you wear it. Don’t continue to discuss it. 

Post # 3
8832 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

sdarrach25 :  “not allowed” isn’t part of any healthy adult relationship.

Post # 4
684 posts
Busy bee

sdarrach25 :  I don’t get it, he doesn’t let you wear your e ring to work but insists you need to wear both rings at all times? I’m not sure what you mean. And what’s his reason for not letting you wear the ring? If it’s unreasonable, there’s no need for further discussion 

Post # 5
6438 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’d never marry someone who wouldn’t “let” me wear whatever jewelry I wanted, whenever I wanted. Engagement rings are intended to be worn. 

Post # 6
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016


sdarrach25 :  I don’t get why he doesn’t want you to wear it at work. We need some more info here.

Post # 7
771 posts
Busy bee

Really need more info. Sounds like he doesn’t want people to know you’re engaged?

Post # 8
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

If Fiance said that to me, I don’t know how I’d be able to stop from laughing at the ridiculousness of that statement.

Post # 9
271 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Umm… no. Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt (with controlling guys). He doesn’t get to tell you what you can wear and when. It should also be about your preference for style and such with the ring(s) if you are discussing this and he is aware. I would say if I’m not “allowed” to pick it and wear it when I please, I won’t be accepting it.

Post # 10
41 posts

Not allowed? ?? Pffff if anything any SO would want you to keep your ring on at all times . What’s his reason ? 

Post # 12
1221 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - -

sdarrach25 :  ohhhh . . . Have you heard of yourringhero.com? It’s kind of overpriced for what it is, but it has a cute printed ring on it and it’s not an ugly silicone ring (sorry, Qalo people).

If I get into weights the way I want to again, that’s my solution to having my ring with me, on me, but I won’t do any damage to it. I think it’d be a great solution to outdoors activities, too. I also have cats, so open ring holders aren’t an option for me. Lol 

Post # 13
19 posts
  • Wedding: November 2006

Red flag! Might want to consider whether you even want a ring from someone who feels entitled to tell you when and where they will “let” you wear it. 

And, um, I own and work a metal fab / repair shop. Grubby business. When it is safe to wear my rings I certainly do so! Be safe, then just insure it and wear it! 

Post # 14
2019 posts
Buzzing bee

If he legit thinks he’s allowed to tell you what you can and cannot do, that’s not okay. 

If he’s more so saying ‘I don’t want you wearing a super expensive and important piece of jewelery working on dirty cars’ I think that’s different. You’d be running the risk of damaging it, losing it, getting it caught on something, etc. I know someone who was working on their car and got their ring caught on something and had to have it cut off! 

TBH I tell my husband he’s ‘not allowed’ to wear his ring to certain things. Working on the house, lifting weights, stuff like that. I am not actually controlling him when I say ‘babe you’re not allowed to wear your ring when you are working on the plumbing!’. 

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