(Closed) He won't marry me because he's depressed

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

letterstolove:  Thinking that 1 1/2 years is a very short time is no reflection on the closeness of your relationship. It is, however, unfair to refer to a person as “stalling” or “making excuses” after so short a time. There are many people who wouldn’t even consider becoming engaged in under 2 years time, no matter how much they love their partner.

Post # 64
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I was in a similar situation with my Fiance before we got engaged. We had been together for three years and had talked about marriage in the past, but he was struggling with depression because of issues with his career and with his family and did not want to get engaged until he worked through those feelings. It was frustrating at the time but I am so glad we waited. He got counseling and took the time to heal and now our engagement is so much happier and more fun than it would have been when he was depressed. Depression is a serious illness and can put a serious strain on a relationship, and while obviously I was willing to work through it with him that would not have been a good time to start an engagement. I hope your SO can get the help he needs, whether that is counseling or just time to work through it himself. Good luck!

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