Post # 61
Thanks. I know he truly loves me. I know we’ll get married one day but it’s just me being unfairly impatiant. Even if he gets better much earlier than when we actually get engaged, I really hope he gets better just for himself. I know his job is really stressing himself out too. I think this vacation we’re about to take will help him out, even if it is just temporarily.
Post # 62
Thinking that 1 1/2 years is a very short time is no reflection on the closeness of your relationship. It is, however, unfair to refer to a person as “stalling” or “making excuses” after so short a time. There are many people who wouldn’t even consider becoming engaged in under 2 years time, no matter how much they love their partner.
Post # 63
I left out this fact because I didn’t want people to project or judge but h was married previously, only after a few weeks being with that person. He says he does not in practical terms comapre our relationship AT ALL. But I wonder of course, since I am the variable, why he was willing to marry that person even though he claims we are “much closer” than they ever were, why he married her do willingly and not me.
Post # 64
I was in a similar situation with my Fiance before we got engaged. We had been together for three years and had talked about marriage in the past, but he was struggling with depression because of issues with his career and with his family and did not want to get engaged until he worked through those feelings. It was frustrating at the time but I am so glad we waited. He got counseling and took the time to heal and now our engagement is so much happier and more fun than it would have been when he was depressed. Depression is a serious illness and can put a serious strain on a relationship, and while obviously I was willing to work through it with him that would not have been a good time to start an engagement. I hope your SO can get the help he needs, whether that is counseling or just time to work through it himself. Good luck!