Head Table

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
9152 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

do you have a do a head table.  i find it rude to split couples.  i think i went to a wedding in college, my bf at the time was in the wedding party and i was alone and didn’t know anyone.  it was aweful.  since then, i’ve been to MANY weddings and have never seen a head table.  the wedding party sits with their dates and with their friends, they are not forced to all sit together.


Post # 32
23 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Highland Park Community House

I’m in the Midwest as well and SO do not sit at the table with the bridal party. No one here thinks it’s rude or poor etiquette. I have 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen so that’s 18 people at the head table including Fiance and I. We just don’t have the room. Also only the groomsmen have SO and since their SO are all close friends I’m putting them at a table together. I’ve been in plenty of weddings where I was not seated with my Fiance ( he was my bf at the time) and I was not upset neither was he. So it must be regional because I’ve never been to a wedding where the SO sit st the bridal party table. 

Post # 34
3210 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

ana2017 :  compromising usually is in a marriage. 

Post # 36
2456 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Midwest- I’ve never been to a wedding that had SOS sit with the bridal party. I’ve also never been to a wedding with a sweetheart table. I even asked some of the venues we looked at about how they would set up a sweetheart table. None of them knew what I was talking about.

Post # 37
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This is definately regional, I have never been to a wedding where this was done in Toronto/Regional area. I personally find that strange… they are not part of the wedding party and all weddings I have been to including my own upcoming one SO’s know plenty of other people… 

Post # 38
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Ive never once been to a wedding where the SOs sat at the head table.  So my answer would be, but them at another table close to the head table.

Post # 41
1209 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Here’s what I’m planning to do for my head table: we both have 5 on each side, and having 12 total people at the head table sounds like a bit too much for me, especially given the layout of the venue. Fiance has two best men and I have one Maid/Matron of Honor, plus I will add his sister (bridesmaid) so he has both his siblings there at the head table- so 6 total. All four are unlikely to have dates/be in serious relationships by the time of the wedding, although who knows what would happen…I guess I’ll have to reassess in that case!

My other three bridesmaids will either be married by the time of the wedding or married within a few months of the wedding, so I’ll make sure they’re seated with their respective SOs at a table close to the head table. I know that etiquette-wise I’d be fine seating them separately but I know they’d be more comfortable sitting together. Same with the other three groomsmen and their wives/SOs. 

Post # 42
3334 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I find head tables SO rude. Not only does the bridal party have to wake up early, get ready with you, take pictures with you, probably eat lunch with you, fluff your dress, fix your hair, makeup (tie, bout), etc, and spend the entire day away from their partner, now you won’t even let them EAT with their loved one? You have to have them strapped to your side for the entire day so you can get pretty pictures? Of what – them shoving food in their mouths? Ugh. Let go of the leash, let them sit with their partners (most probably prefer to not be on display) and get on with your life.

Post # 44
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

imjessjess :  I was toying with this too. I thought about it and discussed it with our DOC and she said it would be harder to do a bigger head table (to accomodate SO’s) because of the space in the venue. We decided to do head table with just bridal party, and put all the SO’s and kids at a table right by the head table. Ours logistically just made more sense, especially because one of our groomsmen has a wife and small child. I assumed that the SO’s of my bridesmaids and the groomsmen could mingle together.

Also, in the midwest, and never been to a wedding where there were SO’s at the head table.

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