(Closed) Head table or no head table?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What option is best?

    Squeeze 7 people at the head table

    Get 2 tables and reduce the number of rounds

    Don't have a head table

    Other?

  • Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

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    @sbruin99:  I think that’s what I would do!

    Post # 19
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We are doing a sweetheart table. I was FI’s date when he was best man at a wedding where there was a head table and it was awkward. The couple ended up sitting me with Fi’s parents and their friends.

     

    Post # 20
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I had to sit at a head table where my date sat with strangers and the whole time I was thinking I needed to hurry up and get away to go rescue him, very awkward.  i just went to a wedding where the bride and groom sat at a round table with some important people, just blended in with the rest of the guests.  This is what I plan on doing for my wedding.  It was much more natural, and everyone was comfortable.  I think a sweetheart sounds a little awkward too…and you’re going to get plenty of alone time, I don’t really think dinner is the time though.  I think a sweetheart would seem very exclusive and I would feel like I wasn’t part of the fun everyone else was having.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @sbruin99: I personally dread the thought of a head table in general, it feels like you are separated from the rest of the room and everyone watches you eating. In regards to where you would sit otherwise I think a sweetheart table would be a great idea if it blends in and there is room for it – but if not there is nothing wrong with sitting at a table of handpicked guests to eat! But I don’t think you get any extra attention at a sweetheart table unless you have it in a spot where it demands attention. The main perk about it (in my view) is that you can have some private words and it is easier for people to come over and speak to you.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    I would do a sweetheart table. I don’t like the idea of making the bridal party sit without their dates.

    Post # 23
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We are having a sweetheart table too where it’s just me and the Fiance.

    Our bridal party (3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 3 GM) will have their own table and be able to sit with their SO’s.  One Bridesmaid or Best Man and one Groomsmen are engaged to each other anyway so it all works out fine.

    We also considered having a table with us and our parents.  But Fiance said he’d rather just have it be us, so that’s what we’re doing.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We had a sweetheart table and didn’t feel like we were on display at all. It all depends on where you place it in the room. Also, people just want to eat! They’re not staring at you. 🙂 And it gave people an opportunity to come over to us, and easily find us, to congratulate us as the reception went on. I could get up from the table without disturbing anyone or having to walk around a large table with my huge dress to give hugs. It was actually very convenient and gave us some pseudo-private time as a couple among the gathering.

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I too, am going through the same predicament.  We have 12 in our wedding party and the head table at our venue only seats 10.  Lately I have been toying with the idea of doing a sweetheart’s table and have our groomsmen/bridesmaid seated at the round tables with their partners and dates. 

     

    By the way, I find it a tad odd that people assume everyone watches you eating if a head table is present.  They don’t.  People might glance at you here and there but honestly people are too busy eating their dinners and having conversations with people at their table.  All weddings I have been a bridesmaid at (4) and have attended (8) only 1 had a sweethearts table and the others had a head table.  For myself personally, it was never weird or awkward to “be on display” because I don’t see it that way.  I just felt honored to be up there with the bride and groom.  As mentioned in other threads and from PP’s, you are only up there for dinner than end up spending the majority of the night socializing anyways.

     

    Sorry, this is getting long.. all choices are great and have their owns pros/cons whether it be head table, sweethearts table, or sitting at a round table.  Good luck OP, update us on what you end up going for.  I know how you feel.  🙂

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I literally despiste the idea of a head table… For several reasons, but I will name a few.

     

    1.  As a person who has been a wedding before it is annoying that if I have a date or now a spouse, I can’t sit with them because I am stuck at YOUR head table.

     

    2.  A sweetheart table is much more appropriate and I think people feel more comfortable approaching the bride and groom during the reception.

    We had a sweet heart table and it was totaly awesome, we could see all of our guest and our guest could see us and have access to us.

     

    I am just not a proponent of a head table at any event, and if I did do one I would invite others to sit there who werent in the wedding party, just to make them feel special for the day.  I know I am weird. 

    Post # 28
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @sbruin99:  If you REALLY want a head table then squeeze everyone together. This may seem like a stupid question but could you rent extra tables from an outside company and have them brought in so everyone could fit?? I personally love head tables and will be having one at my wedding. A LOT of people choose to do sweetheart tables though and those are really nice too. My fiance and I are just not the type of people that are going to be all Lovey Dovey and a sweetheart table for everyone to watch haha but thats just me!!! 

    Post # 29
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    Blushing bee

    We were right at the max for daughter’s wedding reception venue. We had a sweetheart table that was at the edge of the dance floor. We had the groomsmen sit a round table with dates at one side of the sweetheart table, bridesmaids and dates at another to left. After toasts and dinner they took the sweetheart table away for dancong because the bridal couple was up and around visiting and dancing anyway. It was very nice and the bridal party enjoyed being able to sit with their dates/spouses.

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