(Closed) Head Table or Sweetheart Regional

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are you having a sweetheart table or a head table?

    sweetheart table

    head table

  • Post # 32
    536 posts
    Busy bee

    We did a sweetheart table because that’s what DH wanted. At first, I was resistant and felt that it was too antisocial. But I totally loved it on the wedding day! There was so much going on all day that it was the only time we really got to spend simply enjoying eaxh other’s company.

    That is, until bedtime…

    Post # 33
    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    daniellemc:  Well yes, that was not good planning or gracious hosting by the bride groom in that case.  That situation completely sucked for you.  They should have considered your comfort (and every other member of the wedding party and their SO’s) when designing their seating arrangements.  That’s my point actually, their head table didn’t work for their wedding, they should have done sonething that worked for their wedding.  


    Post # 34
    263 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Ever After Banquet Hall

    I’m in Michigan. Every wedding I have ever been to has had a head table. We are having a sweetheart table, though. We thought about a head table, but it turned into a logistical nightmare…so sweetheart it is 😉

    Post # 35
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    We are doing a sweetheart. I’m in FL.  One venue told me another trend is a feasting table which is like a head table but people sit on either side.

    Post # 36
    26 posts
    • Wedding: July 2016 - Laurel Point

    Following, as Fiance and I are debating which one to do for our July 2016 wedding

    Post # 37
    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    The last two weddings I was in were both in Pennsylvania.  One had a head table which wasn’t too bad, since really we pretty much only ate and then hit the dance floor, but the bride and groom met in the Army and most of their party were Army friends, which means almost none of us had ever met before.  We got along fine and it didn’t feel awkward at the time, but I’d have probably rather not done that myself.

    Second wedding they had a sweetheart table, but seated the party all together at another table.  We were all friends so it’s where we would have sat anyway, but not so much with the two groomsmen who were the groom’s not-so-beloved stepbrothers.  Again, though, we were up dancing as soon as plates were cleared, so only spent maybe an hour together at the table, no big deal.

    Most of our wedding party have SOs, so I’d like to do a sweetheart table so that they can sit with their other halves during dinner and the rest of the reception.  Haven’t talked to Fiance about it, but that’s my line of thinking.  We live in Missouri now so I’m not sure what the reigning trend is here in the sweetheart vs head debate.

    Post # 38
    1183 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m UK and have never seen a sweetheart table or heard of one til the bee. we’ll have a head table – but not one of the typical long ones where the bridal party face the guests. 

    Post # 39
    102 posts
    Blushing bee

    I’m from the Midwest (Illinois and Missouri) and every wedding I’ve ever been to, inlcuding my own, had a head table.  I had some reservations about it, but I made sure everyone’s date knew a few other people to socialize with.  Also, we broke with tradition and did our toasts and cake cutting before dinner so people ate and then were free to roam around. 

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