(Closed) Head Table Problems?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
  • poll: How would you organize your head table?

    Have a head table with just your bridal party

    Have a head table with bridal party and their guests

    Not have a head table at all

  • Post # 3
    129 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m doing bridal party and guests. I don’t think my sister’s boyfriend would like to have to sit with my parents or some random group of my friends (they are 7 years younger).

    Post # 4
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    we’re actually having long tables with tons of people at each, so this isn’t really much of an issure for us. i will say that when my Future Sister-In-Law got married, my Fiance was up at the head table and i was stuck at a table with his parents and grandparents. i LOVE my future in-laws, but it wasn’t the most exciting night of my life. i would’ve MUCH preferred to be with him.

    Post # 5
    1194 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think the head table thing is a regional thing because I actually haven’t been to a wedding where a couple had one.  Most of the weddings I’ve been to, the bride & groom opted to have a sweetheart table and sit their bridal parties with their dates together.

    My fiance and I are actually going to share a table with his siblings, their dates & my Maid/Matron of Honor (all who are in our bridal party) and our other bridal party members will sit, with their dates, at another table.

    I know that if I went to a wedding that my fiance was in and I couldn’t sit with him, I would probably be a little unhappy, especially if I didn’t know anyone at the wedding (which could be possible, he’s going to be a best man in a wedding next year and I will only know him, the groom, the bride & I have maybe met his siblings & their spouses once in the 3 years we’ve been together).

    I would say that if you’re doing a head table, just be considerate of the dates.  If they do know someone else at the wedding not in the bridal party, seat them with that person or seat them with people you think they might get along with.

    If I was in that situation, I would probably enjoy the speeches & formalities, chow down my food, hit the bar & walk over to the sweetheart table to chat with or hang out with my fiance.  Or, he would eat his food & come meet me at my seat or the bar afterwards.  So, be aware that that could also happen.

    But, if it’s common in your area or with your family & friends to do the sweetheart table & they all expect it, then maybe everyone would be better prepared for it than I would be!

    Post # 6
    5493 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    how about a sweetheart table with two satalite tables right next to it with your bridal party and their dates.

    or sit at a regular round table with part of your bridal party and dates with the other part at the table next to you.

    Post # 7
    695 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    In recent years, I’ve only been to two weddings with head tables, and both times, as the girlfriend (now fiance) of a groomsman, I was super uncomfortable.

    The first was FBIL’s wedding. At first they were doing bridal party only at the table. Then, they decided to include me too, which was very nice of them, but they seated me on the bridesmaids’ side of the table. My Fiance was all the way on the other side of the table. I felt “on display” for no real reason since I was all the way at the end next to a bridesmaid and I was the only non-wedding party member at the table. So, if you include guests, I’d advise seating them next to their dates.

    In the second case, Fiance was the Best Man for his college buddy. They did a traditional head table with no guests. I ended up sitting at a table full of random older single women, the officiant, and the wife of another groomsman. It was very awkward and uncomfortable at first, but the folks were nice enough, so it wasn’t tragic. That said, I would have had a LOT more fun sitting with Fiance and other people our age.

    Post # 8
    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    see i’m not sure what to do here either….our venue has a “sweetheart” table for just me and my fiancee, but after that i know i want certain reserved tables for wedding party and their guests, and close family…i guess everyone else can fend for themselves. lol

    i just know at my best friends wedding WE the wedding party – as i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man – came later bc of pics, etc, etc and ended up in these tables WAY in the bakc of the hall no where near any action….like stuffed in a corner. it was dreadful

    Post # 10
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’m having a head table with my attendants and their partners sitting with them, but that’s mostly because I’m having a small bridal party so it’s completely manageable.  The best man’s wife is unable to make it and my bridesmaid is single and there is a no date rule for the entire wedding, only longer terms partners allowed (6 months or more).  So that makes 8, me and my Fiance, best man, Maid/Matron of Honor & her husband, groomsmen and his wife, and my bridesmaid.  I’ll be seating the couples together though and not dividing it by sex as that would be weird.

    You may just want to ask your attendants what they’d prefer, or even just get the opinion of your Maid/Matron of Honor his Bridesmaid or Best Man and then decide if you want to go the sweetheart table route or not.

    Post # 11
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I don’t fall into any of the choices– we are doing a sweatheart table with just FH and I. 

    Post # 12
    1288 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

    I think we settled on a sweetheart table. The bridal party will sit with their guests and friends.

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