Post # 1
Hello insightful bees!
This subject kept me awake last night so I thought I’d bring it to you guys. I’m starting to wonder whether I want a head table. Something about it seems a little dated, maybe? Not to mention uncomfortable – being put on display like that could make for an awkward dinner. I mean I understand the concept, that people will want to see us/take pictures of us/ etc etc, but I’m just not sure I want to do it.
I’m pretty aware of the alternatives. I know we could do a sweetheart table (fiance totally not into that), and we could also sit with our immediately family and let the wedding party sit with the dates. But there’s some important dynamics to factor in – we are both from divorced families so the immediately family situation is complicated (as is the sibling situation), and of our whole bridal party (4 and 4), only four are in relationships, and two of them are are a couple! So breaking them up to sit with SO’s really isn’t necessary.
Here’s something I’m considering – still sitting with the wedding party, but at a normal round table like everyone else. Is that crazy? What would people think of that? Another thought – if the caterer has is, maybe a rectangle table with six on each side, but the two seats in front of us empty so guests can see us. What do you think??
Post # 3
I think you can do whatever it is you feel is best for you.
Personally, I didn’t want a head table, but we are sort of ending up with one anyway, because we want the dance floor in front of all of the tables.
We are having our bridal party, along with their dates & both sets of our parents at our head table, for a total of 14 people.
Here is the general idea of our layout :
Post # 4
I don’t think a round table with your bridal party would be bad. I actually think that would be really fun! We’re going to sit at a round table with our families, and nobody has blinked an eye at that. I don’t like the sweetheart table for us, and head tables aren’t really a “thing” where I’m from and I didn’t like the time I had to sit at one as a bridesmaid.
If I was at your wedding I would think that was lovely. Go for it.
Post # 5
@jenilynevette: I can tell how fun your wedding is going to be just by seeing the layout! Thanks for sharing! 🙂
@CaroBee: Thank you! It’s always reassuring to hear your ideas aren’t crazy!
Post # 6
My BFF did that at her wedding for the wedding party. It worked out great, although she didn’t do a dinner (just h’or deoevres) so we left the table a lot to mingle.
It’s not a weird idea at all!
Post # 7
Sitting with the wedding party at a normal table is a fabulous idea! I was a bridesmaid in one where we did exactly that. The four attendants, the bride, groom and my date (now my FI) all sat together at a round table. We had a blast, and could actually speak to one another!
Our venue has 6-person round tables, so our game plan is to have our table be me, Fiance, Maid/Matron of Honor, her boyfriend, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and his wife. That way, no splitting dates, and the rest of the attendants will be scattered at tables with their dates and friends. We want a comfortable party atmosphere, and just hate the Last Supper style head table. We’re also unimpressed by sweetheart tables.
Post # 8
We are having a sweetheart table to include me, Fiance & our son. We opted not to go with the head table b/c we have 4 & 4 one set are a couple and 3 others have SOs that will be attending but not in the Wedding Party. We didnt want to make people sit without their loved ones…we went to a wedding once where the Wedding Party sat with the Bride & Groom at 2 round head tables but there were enough seats that their SOs were able to sit with them.
Post # 9
@ArtDecoDC: Last Supper…that’s the perfect way to describe it! I’m excited that we might not be doing that lol