(Closed) head table question!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who should we have at our head table?
    Parents only : (0 votes)
    Bridal party only : (11 votes)
    35 %
    Bridal party and parents : (0 votes)
    Screw the head table, have a sweet heart table! : (14 votes)
    45 %
    It is okay to have a raised head table and a lower one : (4 votes)
    13 %
    It is not okay to have a raised head table and a lower one : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mayflowerbride13:  When I was a BM in a friend’s wedding, the parents were not at the head table. It was just the couple and BMs and GMs alternating. 

    Post # 4
    12623 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve never seen parents at a head table!  I think you should just seat them as close to you as possible, but not at the head table (lke the front tables).  Then just do alternating BM/GM without any real specific order maybe?

    Post # 5
    3476 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    We did a sweetheart table to avoid the whole issue.  BUT, it’s not usually standard for the parents to sit at the head table.  The 2 tables closest to you is fine. 

    Post # 6
    10509 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I agree with PPs, it pretty typical to have one or two tables with parents, grandparents, etc.  These tables are usually front and centre, directly across from the head table.

    Post # 8
    3381 posts
    Sugar bee

    In the UK (I don’t know where you’re from so am just adding my two cents) it’s only parents, MOH and Best Man who sit with the bride and groom at the head table (8 people). The rest of the bridesmaids sit elsewhere (groomsmen are uncommon). But I know it’s different elsewhere.

    Post # 10
    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Never seen parents sit at the head table, even if they are hosting. Just make sure they are nearby and you’ll be fine. 

    As for the MOH thing, I have two as well so I am just picking my best friend since the rest of my bridal party is family and they all know each other. 

    Post # 11
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had a sweetheart table (just us!), sat parents together with grandparents and pastor, then let our MOH and BM sit with their dates and friends.

    Post # 12
    1114 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I was going to say that in the UK the parents are almost always at the head table, but ladyartichoke beat me to it!

    Post # 13
    1579 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I think we’re planning on having a ‘sweet heart’ table with just us, then having a groomsmen/bridesmaid table, and then a parents/grandparents table. (:

    Post # 14
    3381 posts
    Sugar bee

    @mayflowerbride13:  No problem! 🙂 Does he expect to sit with you?  The traditional UK layout is (left to right) MOH, FOG, MOB, GROOM, BRIDE, FOB, MOG, BM.  Also only the groom, FOB, and best man give speeches at UK weddings traditionally. I actually don’t mind though since I hate public speaking.  There’s loads of weird rules about who toasts who too. Sorry, I’m rambling now…

    Post # 15
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @ladyartichoke:  This.  We had us, our parents and the koumbaros (Best Man) only.

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