(Closed) head table question!

posted 6 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who should we have at our head table?
    Parents only : (0 votes)
    Bridal party only : (11 votes)
    35 %
    Bridal party and parents : (0 votes)
    Screw the head table, have a sweet heart table! : (14 votes)
    45 %
    It is okay to have a raised head table and a lower one : (4 votes)
    13 %
    It is not okay to have a raised head table and a lower one : (2 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @mayflowerbride13:  When I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a friend’s wedding, the parents were not at the head table. It was just the couple and BMs and GMs alternating. 

    Post # 4
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    13251 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve never seen parents at a head table!  I think you should just seat them as close to you as possible, but not at the head table (lke the front tables).  Then just do alternating BM/GM without any real specific order maybe?

    Post # 5
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    3471 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    We did a sweetheart table to avoid the whole issue.  BUT, it’s not usually standard for the parents to sit at the head table.  The 2 tables closest to you is fine. 

    Post # 6
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    10589 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I agree with PPs, it pretty typical to have one or two tables with parents, grandparents, etc.  These tables are usually front and centre, directly across from the head table.

    Post # 8
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    4361 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    In the UK (I don’t know where you’re from so am just adding my two cents) it’s only parents, Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man who sit with the bride and groom at the head table (8 people). The rest of the bridesmaids sit elsewhere (groomsmen are uncommon). But I know it’s different elsewhere.

    Post # 10
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    2401 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Never seen parents sit at the head table, even if they are hosting. Just make sure they are nearby and you’ll be fine. 

    As for the Maid/Matron of Honor thing, I have two as well so I am just picking my best friend since the rest of my bridal party is family and they all know each other. 

    Post # 11
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We had a sweetheart table (just us!), sat parents together with grandparents and pastor, then let our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man sit with their dates and friends.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I was going to say that in the UK the parents are almost always at the head table, but ladyartichoke beat me to it!

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I think we’re planning on having a ‘sweet heart’ table with just us, then having a groomsmen/bridesmaid table, and then a parents/grandparents table. (:

    Post # 14
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    4361 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    @mayflowerbride13:  No problem! 🙂 Does he expect to sit with you?  The traditional UK layout is (left to right) Maid/Matron of Honor, FOG, MOB, GROOM, BRIDE, FOB, MOG, Bridesmaid or Best Man.  Also only the groom, FOB, and best man give speeches at UK weddings traditionally. I actually don’t mind though since I hate public speaking.  There’s loads of weird rules about who toasts who too. Sorry, I’m rambling now…

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @ladyartichoke:  This.  We had us, our parents and the koumbaros (Best Man) only.

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