(Closed) Head Table Questions

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018 - Farm

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breebee324 :  

We had our sweet heart table against the wall of the venue so that we could look out and see everyone. There were people at tables to the left and right of us and in front of us. The stage was to the left of us where the DJ was and the dance floor in front of the DJ. No one had to turn around for speeches. We only had one person give a speech and it was done from their table. Is there another place to set up for speeches so that you will not have to turn around or not be in the mix with your guests? Can the mic be given to the person at the table instead of going up to give a speech? I would limit the amount of speeches and let everyone to keep speeches under at 2 minutes or so. You don’t want it to become a long and boring time. People don’t like to sit and listen to a lot of speeches/tributes. It becomes boring.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

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breebee324 :  There are people who are very eloquent and captivating when speaking in public; it’s a pleasure to listen to them. Most people, however, don’t have this gift. Unless you’re certain that everyone attending your reception has that gift, you might want to reevaluate the open mic idea. It might save you – and your guests – from awkward and/or boring speeches.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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breebee324 :  i don’t understand how having a head table allows the bridal party to relax in any way that sitting them with friends and family that they know doesn’t. I’d much rather sit with my friends than at the head table – which feels LESS relaxing, as you’re on display, and often the entir bridal party aren’t your good friends so it’s much more forced conversation. Sounds like your situation really just cries out for a sweetheart table. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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breebee324 :  oh god. Just read your update post. So not only are you allowing anyone and everyone to get up and give a speech, but your guests don’t even have alcohol to get them through the (inevitably very long) line of speakers?!? Please god don’t do this. I just came from a wedding where there was an “open mic” – and there were SEVENTEEN speakers. And maybe 1 kept it under two minutes. On average, they were 6-7 mins long each. Go do that math…..I’m glad we at least had booze to help us through. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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breebee324 :  oh nooooo. Open mic toasts are the worst. Please don’t do this. Some people talk TOO long, others tell awkward inside stories that alienate guests, simevjust repeatvwhat others have said, very few can deliver a heartfelt and meaningful speech on the fly  

As far as a sweetheart table I don’t see why you guys have to be away from everyone. Maybe a room sketch could help you get more clear fixes?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - New York, New York

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breebee324 : I support not having a head table! I was a bridesmaid at my friend’s wedding, and everyone in the bridal party got a plus-one, so I brought Joe. However, because she had a head table, Joe was sitting at another table across the room from me for most of the reception. I didn’t know any of the other bridesmaids, and Joe didn’t know anyone else at the wedding besides me and the bride and groom, so it would have been nice to sit next to him. Also, other groomsmen and bridesmaids who had brought dates to the wedding deserted the head table as soon as they could to join their significant others, so the head table was empty for a big chunk of the reception. 

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