(Closed) Head table seating… help?? :)

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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tashanicole12 :  Can you just do a table only for you and Darling Husband. Your wedding party can go sit with their dates with the rest of the guest. This is how we did it and our wedding party was very grateful. Are you set on having a headtable?

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I would say that overall, it’s your decision of how you want your wedding. Other than eating, there is no reason the head table HAS to sit at the head table all night. They will be up dancing or socializing and will have plenty of time with the dates.

As a date to my fiance at several weddings where he was at the head table, I’ve always been sat at a table with the other dates. I thought that worked out the best because at the very least, we all had the fact that our dates were sitting at the head table in common! I do think it becomes a little  uncomfortable though when you seat someone at the head table’s date in just a random spot at a random table.

Like you though, I wanted the head table, but now I’m considering doing a sweetheart table. I was running into the same issues and overall, feel like keeping our bridal party with their dates/families would probably work the best for everyone (and be the least stressful for me).

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We’re just doing a traditional head table with the wedding party. Fiance has stood up in 7 or 8 weddings since we’ve been together, and in all but one I did not get to sit with him. It isn’t a big deal, and I really don’t think it’s rude. I always survived–even when I didn’t know a single person at the wedding.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

My head table consists of me, my fiance, and our immediate family members (e.g: my parents, his parents, grandparents, ..) 

our bridal party will have another table all for themselves! We’re doing round tables of 10 each, so they can bring their dates and so on if they wish.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We’re doing a head table – not one on risers facing out – but a long, rectangular table (all other guests will be at large round tables). My Fiance I will sit side-by-side on one end and the wedding party (with their dates) will be sitting along both sides. I also didn’t want dates to have to sit apart from their SO’s just because they weren’t in the wedding party. It works out nicely and everyone’s really happy about it. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

We didn’t have space for all wedding party and dates so did our moh and best man and their dates and then his sister and bil and my brother and sil.  Most of them were in the wedding party.  The rest of the wedding party were seated out at regular tables with their date and social group.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

We’re having a long rectangular table surrounded by round tables. Fiance and I on one side with MOH/BM + dates and our parents, rest of the wedding party on the other side with their dates. Its a small 40-50 guest wedding. We didn’t want to sit apart from our loved ones or separate anyone from their date so this was a nice solution. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think seating the wedding party at the head table without their dates is becoming an outdated practice.  Most weddings I’ve been to have seated the wedding party members with their dates because it is most comfortable for their wedding party members.  Yes, it is only for eating and people will survive being seated away from their dates but, honestly, wouldn’t they prefer to be seated with their SO?  Especially, if they don’t know a lot of people.  At our wedding we are having a “head table” but it is just the same type of circular table that everyone else is seated at except it will have me, my Fiance, the best man and his wife, maid of honor and her Fiance, and then a groomsman and his date, and a bridesmaid and her date.  The rest of the wedding party will be sitting at tables with their SO’s in their respectice social circles.  I just think this is the most fair and comfortable for all.  I always appreciate it when I go to a wedding that either I or my SO is in and we are seated together.  It makes it more enjoyable.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Its SO much nicer when Wedding Party dates can sit with their respective SOs. So thank you for considering that!

2 round tables with a sweetheart inbetween would be fine. A long table with everyone at it also works. Or a table with MOH/BM and dates and everyone else at a table. Or you have you/FIs parents sit with you at your table, and Wedding Party at another table. So many more options rather than just Wedding Party only.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

We broke with tradition and did a head table based on what we thought would be the most fun for us and our loved ones – keeping some couples together, and splitting others, based on their preferences:

We did a small head table with 6 people – Darling Husband and I, DH’s best man and best man’s wife (best man’s wife was not in the wedding party, but we wanted to seat them together for the reception), and my sister/MOH & and good friend of mine (who wasn’t in the wedding party).

We would have seated Maid/Matron of Honor with her husband & kids, but my brother-in-law (MOH’s husband) offered to take on the duties of babysitting solo so that my sister could just have fun with me at the reception – he’s an angel!

Also, my childhood best friend had RSVP’d to come to the wedding solo – her husband couldn’t make it, and she literally wasn’t going to know a single person at the wedding. So  when I was making up table arrangements and realized I could fit 6 at the head table, I didn’t blink an eye at putting her at the head table (even though she wasn’t in the wedding party) and it was fantastic to get to catch up with her and share the meal together!

Other bridesmaids (DH’s sisters) and groomsmen (DH’s sisters’ husbands) were seated at a normal table with other mutual friends. It was no big deal to not have the whole wedding party at the head table.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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tashanicole12 :  Since you asked, we didn’t do a sweetheart table because I knew Darling Husband and I would be nervous to be sitting there in front of everyone. Having our ‘nearest and dearest’ together with us at a head table allowed us to enjoy the meal with good conversation and good company, without feeling like the whole room was just staring at the two of us:)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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tashanicole12 :  Our bridal party is huge and I hate separating them from their dates. So we’re having a groomsmen/usher table +dates, a bridesmaid table + dates, and then my Fiance and I will be at a table with parents/grandparents. A sweetheart table stresses me out!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

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