Post # 1
I’ve got four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. None of them are couples and almost all of them will have a plus 1. Only 2 of them are single but may bring a plus one for the company anyways. I already know that I do not want a head table with 18 people. It’s just overkill. I’m also not a huge fan of sweetheart tables. I’d rather let people sit where ever they want to sit. A lot of the plus ones will know other people at the wedding, so they can sit and socialize.
So I’m debating 2 different options. Either have the head table with the bridesmaids and grooms men (10 people including Fiance and me) or just have the bridal party sit at the reception with everyone else. That way they can sit with their plus ones and I don’t need a seating chart. Then it would just be Fiance and me at the “head table.”
I know a lot of opinionated people would say that it is “rude” to not let the bridal party sit with their plus ones, but I just plain don’t agree. They sit there for the toasts, then they can go where ever they want after that for eating, dancing, all that. We’ll be socializing from table to table anyways. I do think it would be a little strange to not have the bridal party at the table with us if we went the route of them sitting wherever at the reception.
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
We did the following, as have other’s who’s weddings I’ve been in.
We sat at a regular round table like the rest of our guests, with our bridal part AND their plus ones. It was nice to get to socialize with everyone. My best friend who had a larger party than we did, had more than one regular table for them, the MOH’s, and Best men plus SO’s, then a second table next to it that had the rest of the Bridal Party and their SO’s. I think people like to sit with their SO and you d’nt hvae to all sit in one long line. No one will even notice really.
I’m not a fan of head tables personally. I don’t complain about them but you only get to talk to the two people you are sandwiched between and you can’t see the bride and groom or talk to them during dinner. You just sit there and eat and then wait for the next event to start.
Post # 4
We are doing a head table. I’m mixing it up so people can sit next to people who they are closer to meaning that we won’t have all the guys on one side, and all the girls on the other side.
To be honest, my reason is logistical. We will eat, and then do speaches as soon as the last people have their plates. It’s much easier to play pass the microphone than having to round up each person from where ever they are sitting.
We are not adding dates to the head table. Beyond it being too many people, it also brings attention to those people that do not have dates. With one of those people being my brother and one being my Maid/Matron of Honor and neither really wanting attention brought to that. Every SO is 27+ and can handle making small talk with other adults for half an hour.
Post # 5
@MechEBee: We sat at a table in the reception with our bridal party and their dates. I am also not a fan of “head tables.” I wanted to be a part of everything, and I wanted to sit with my bridesmaids as well as my husband. It worked really well for us.
Post # 5
We’re doing a head table with two long tables with the party and their dates behind us
Post # 6
We’re sitting at a regular round table with both sets of parents and my grandmother. The bridal party will sit with their SOs