(Closed) Head Table VS. Sweetheart Table

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What kind of table are you doing?
    Head table with all of the bridal party : (40 votes)
    26 %
    Sweetheart table with me and my babe : (84 votes)
    55 %
    Other- : (28 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Neither. We are sitting with our wedding party in a regular round banquet table. It is kind of a modified head table. We’ll decorate this table slightly different than other tables. ur wedding party spouses will be able to sit with us. We have two attendants each.

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Sweetheart table.  All of my wedding party is either married or has a SO, so I thought they will want to sit with their honey’s and I do too!

    Post # 5
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    220 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Definitely doing a sweetheart table for many reasons including it will give us a chance to take a breather, sit down and eat!  Even though I don’t have a dress yet, I’m not planning on it being a big poofy obstacle though, so I can’t speak for that aspect!

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I put other, even though I have NO IDEA what we are giong to do.  Fiance feels weird about sitting by ourselves since so many people are going to be travelling to the wedding.  Our wedding is small, and so it would be really weird to do a head table without spouses, but then the the BM/GM have 4 kiddos between the two of them…if we did a head table with spouses, that would put 9 adults and 4 kids at the table, and that seems weird.

    We are thinking of doing Future Mother-In-Law, Future Father-In-Law, my dad and my stepmom with us, but then I don’t know if his parents would rather sit with their family.   It’s very complicated.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee

    We did sort of a kings table.  The wedding party wanted to sit with their SO, so some sat at our table but most were with guests.  And then we had some of our friends who had traveled a long distance and we wanted to make sure we got some extra time with sit at our table.  I really liked how it worked out and I felt relaxed eating dinner.  We still got up to talk to people but we were talking to people we hadn’t seen in awhile while eating so it served as double duty.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We did a modified head table of sorts. All of our guests were seated at round tables, and we sat at a square table mixed among the round tables so we could all face each other and talk. I hated the idea of being on display in front of everyone while eating, and this made it feel like we were sitting at a family table.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We did a head table with the wedding party.  None of them cared about sitting with their SOs (dinner is 20-30 minutes and then they get to be with them all evening).  Darling Husband and I have also never cared about having to sit separately for dinner if one of us in in someone’s wedding.

    I’ve also never cared for the feel of sweetheart tables.  They always feel very isolating to me and I don’t think it’s right for the B&G to isolate themselves from the people who are there to celebrate them.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We did a head table but if i could go back in time I would change it to a sweetheart table 🙂

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Probably doing a head table.  Our dinner is buffet/serving station style and should last hours so it will be fine that our wedding party doesn’t sit with their SOs for a few minutes. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    we are doing a sweetheart table. all of our wedding party except for my two younger sisters have signficant others and i wouldn’t want to seperate them from each other.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee

    We’re having a Sweetheart table 🙂

    ETA a Why, we want to eat together, and I don’t want to sit next to everyone in my dress LOL, it’s pretty big.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Sweetheart table for me. I didn’t like the idea of having our wedding party not sitting with their dates. And for me personally, I’d feel weird sitting at a long table with my army of people. It almost feels like we’re there for some kind of meeting instead of a wedding. To each their own, I guess.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Neither. I kind of dont like either of them. I’m not a fan of the head table because I feel like its super impersonal. There is no way that we can engage in a conversation when everyone is sitting in a line, without having to yell over eachother. I also hate the fact that the Bridal Party can’t sit with their dates. Fiance was my “date” for my friends wedding in which I was a bmaid and I was FI’s “date” for his brothers wedding where he was the Best Man and it was terrible. We were both pretty miserable all through dinner (given I was less miserable than he was since I knew everyone on the grooms side, but I still wasn’t happy about having to sit with the grandparents).

    As for sweetheart tables, I would prefer to have 15 minutes to eat where all eyes won’t be on me. Having a sweetheart tables pretty much guarantees that people are staring at you all through dinner. Fiance and I will be sitting at a standard round banquet table (like the ones rest of our guests are sitting at) with both sets of parents and FI’s brother/SIL. Our bridal party will be at a round banquet table right next to ours, with their dates. This will work out smashingly for us. =)

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We just recently decided to do a sweetheart table so that our bridal party can sit with their spouses. It just seems easier and nicer for them and their family 🙂

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