Post # 1
I am most definitely having a Sweetheart Table (just for Fiance and I) and having satellite tables close to us for our parents, immediate family, and the Bridal Party. I don’t like the look of being “on display” and having the Bridal Party not be able to sit with their SO. I have never liked it being in weddings and vowed not to repeat it for my day. What are your views? How are you seating your party?
Post # 3
I feel exactly the same way. I actually think its really inconsiderate to insist that the bridal party sit with you and without their guests. I don’t mean to offend anyone if that’s what you’re doing! I just know that there have been weddings where the guest of someone in the bridal party doesn’t know a soul and they’re forced to sit alone at a table full of strangers. It’s not fun!
Post # 4
Yes, I didn’t go to a wedding that my Fiance was in to avoid that. He has been to two with me and I hated it.
Post # 5
We did a head table with our parents, wedding party and SOs. It was important to both the hubs and I have that dinner hour at an intimate table and really reflect on the day and take it all in. It was a long rectangular table and it seated 16 people total. It was perfect for us because we were all family (even the SOs are like family), and everyone loved it.
BUT, I totally get why some couples choose the sweetheart table. For us, it wasn’t the right choice, but for some people, it’s toatlly worth it.
Post # 6
I voted for a head table because it just looks more fancy and traditional, but a sweet heart table is cool too. A lot of my people in my wedding party have significant others who will not be in the wedding… So I see your point about having them separated from their so and so…. My mind is still set on having a head table. Just more fancy.
Post # 7
I think our first meal together is pretty special, so I want it to be just the two of us at the table. Plus I’d like the chance to TALK to each other. It seems like so many brides and grooms always comment after the wedding that they barely saw each other all night and I’m determined to not let that happen!
Plus I’ve found with head tables you can’t talk to anyone other than whoever is immediately beside you. It’s kind of anti-social and I agree, I don’t like feeling like I’m on display.
Post # 8
I’m not sure what we’re going to do. Fiance is really into the idea of non-assigned seating. Me, I LOVE the idea of it but am afraid it’s an awkward disaster waiting to happen. But it would solve the whole problem of where we sit (or, rather, give us the same awkwardness everyone else has). If we do assign, it won’t be either. I don’t think a sweetheart table is for us, and a fancy head table is definitely not.
Post # 9
we originally wanted to have a round table with my bridal party and their dates and us, because i also don’t agree with not being able to have bridal party seperated from their dates and i don’t want to be on display, but we have one too many people for that so we’re going to end up with a sweet heart table.
Post # 10
Entangled, so are you thinking of just having circular seats eveywhere and just choosing one to sit at with some of the guests?
Post # 11
I was the same way – we did a sweetheart table, tables near us for our parents and bridal party tables across from us. I was in a wedding where they did a head table and I was away from my Darling Husband. Thankfully he knew 2 other people at his table, otherwise he wouldnt have known anyone!
Post # 12
We’re doing neither. We definitely weren’t going to split up the wedding party and their SOs, but I don’t really want to sit in a table for 2 either. We’ll be at one of our long tables w/ whatever family/friends fit.
Post # 13
I think we are doing a sweethearts table. My other thought is a “VIP” table, for a lack of a better word. It would be us, and maybe our parents and my siblings (they are single and without family where as the Mister’s siblings are all married with kids). But I’m not 100% sold on that idea yet.
Post # 14
We’re doing a sweetheart table because honestly we won’t be sitting long. So why worry about a head table- if the heads are going to be visiting everyone. That’s our thought, but at some venues a head table can look really classy!
Post # 15
I am just having 4 reserved tables. The reserved tables will of course have place cards. We will be sitting with some of the bridal party and their SO and the rest of the bridal party (including SO) and immediate family will be sitting at the other reserved tables
Post # 16
We’re doing a sweetheart table. We want to be able to have some time to ourselves not surrounded by everyone, and we want our wedding party to be able to sit wth their guests.