(Closed) Head Table vs Sweetheart Table

posted 12 years ago in Reception
  • poll: What is your seating arrangement for yor Bridal Party?

    Head Table

    Sweetheart Table

    Not sure Yet

    Other (described below)

  • Post # 17
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    In the 8.5 years that DH and I have been together, he has been in 10 weddings!!!  (In the next 2 years, he has been asked to be in 2 more!)   Anyway, my point is that I have attended a LOT of weddings by myself because every single one of them had the wedding party sit at the head table without their dates.  Frankly, IT SUCKS!

    So, for my wedding we had a head table (because we wanted to sit with all our best friends) but their dates sat with us.  That was something I was absolutely adamant about while planning my wedding.

    So, I voted: Head Table – but maybe I should have voted : Other

    Post # 18
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My dad hates sweetheart tables (one of the few opinions he has voiced about weddings) so that was out.

    We considered having our Bridal Party + their SOs sit at the head table with us, but that’s 18 people total!  So we are just doing us + Bridal Party.  Their dates are all grown ups and can handle being apart from their SOs for an hour of dinner.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I have a real problem with head tables. I’ve been on both sides of it – in the bridal party and not sitting with my date, and being a date of one of the groomsman. I hated it. We’re definitely doing a sweetheart table. Plus I think they look cute.

    Post # 20
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted for sweetheart table because that’s what I really, really want. I don’t like the idea of separating the bridal party from their guests.

    However. (Ugh, I hate this “however.”) Because of the way our venue is set up, we might HAVE to do a head table of some sort. Maybe I’ll force our parents up there instead of the bridal party though. I know the parents don’t want to sit on display but too bad.

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee

    I really wanted to sit with my pals at a regular round table – but Fiance didn’t want to make anyone feel slighted (like we picked our ‘favorite’ people to sit with) – so, sweetheart table for us!

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I am so confused on this topic. I really don’t want a sweetheart table. I’ll feel odd if it just us. Fiance and I are always surrounded by people and are not the ones to be sitting alone, especially at our wedding. With that being said, I don’t want my bridal party and or their dates to be affected by having a head table.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We are doing head tables. They are going to be long rectangluar tables and we will be at the head of the table on a sweetheart bench. I have never seen this before, but my wedding planner designed it and it looked beautiful! But we haven’t discussed who will be sitting there yet.

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    @roxy – if you want them to be at the head table with you you should go ahead and do it! All of our bridal party’s guests know each other and will sit at a table together. We are doing sweetheart head table combo – with a sweetheart in the middle and two rectangle tables on either side angling forward for the bridal party!

    Post # 25
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We are not doing a head table or a sweetheart table. We are having twelve person square tables for all of our guests. We will be sitting at one in the middle (sort of) of all the other tables with our bridal party (and their dates) either at our table or the ones adjacent to us. I can’t stand the thought of “being on display” or seperating my bridal party from their dates. Our wedding planner came up with the table arrangement as a solution to our concerns.

    Post # 26
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We’ll be doing a head table. Future hubs and I decided it would be symbolic of the union of our families. Also, my hubby to be is from Holland and he and his dad are very close and after the wedding he will be living in the states so it was very important to me that they get to spend as much time as possible together during the wedding. I know its technically my day, but I think in the end we will have sweeter memories in sharing it with our families. As far as the SO in the bridal party, they aren’t children and can manage to eat alone for an hour. After dinner we plan on having a lounge area in the back where people can mingle so I don’t think its so horrific if they are apart for this brief period.

    Post # 27
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    we’ll have a table together, but allow the bridal party to sit with their SO’s. I think it’s silly to have a table made up of just the bridal party. But that’s my opinion!

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If we were having a sit-down dinner we would have gone with a sweetheart table. We don’t like being on display much so we would have just tucked ourselves into the centre of the room and everyone could see us if they wanted but we wouldn’t be on a “podium” so to speak. As it is we’re having a cocktail and canapé reception so it doesn’t matter!

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Head table.  Sweetheart tables aren’t that common around here actually.  When my Fiance and I first started dating, he was in a wedding and I went as his date.  I sat at a table with a girl I didn’t know, and she ended up becoming one of my best friends and is now one of my bridesmaids 🙂

    In My Humble Opinion, sitting away from your SO or date during dinner isn’t a huge deal.  It’s only for an hour or less.  A lot of my bridesmaids and FI’s groomsmen aren’t in serious relationships.  If they do bring a date, all the dates will be seated together with other people their age so they can at least have something in common 🙂 I like the look of the sweetheart table, but everyone in our wedding is friends with each other.  It’d be weird for us all not to sit together!

     

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dont know for sure if we are doing assigned seating yet but if we did we would do a sweetheart table.

    Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We’re doing a modified head table where it will be my two Maids of Honor and their SO’s and the Best man and his SO.  The rest of the wedding party will be right next to us at tables where they can sit with their SO’s as well.  We didn’t want a sweetheart because we don’t want to be on display while we eat (hopefully we actually do!).  

     

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