(Closed) Head table/ wedding part rant!

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you really want a head table, just tell them that’s what you’re doing. It’s not like they’ll be sitting there all night. They can get up and mingle once they eat.

I, personally, don’t like head tables, but if you do, do it! We’re doing a sweetheart table in a completely different room. We want time to have a few minutes alone. While everyone is getting their food, we’re going to take photos, then go eat while everyone is finishing up their food. Then we’re going to come out and go straight into our first dance, then cut the cake, etc. We won’t even see our guests while they’re eating, haha.

Post # 4
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m having a head table, but two of my bridesmaids are married, so I am just having their husbands sit at the head table with us. Have you considered including their SO’s? 

Post # 6
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MrsB2beee:  bestman’s SO called several things at the bridal shower, going so far to say our wedding is a joke and if it were up to her Bridesmaid or Best Man wouldn’t be in the wedding so not to keen on having her at the bridal party, I’m not forbiding her from the wedding as i want the Bridesmaid or Best Man happy.

Uhm..I would probably be having a nice little chat with your Fiance and his best man about the way she treated you. That’s just ridiculous and uncalled for. Personally, I would probably tell them that if she thinks it is such a joke, that she doesn’t need to waste her time to come.

As far as the head table….if that’s something that you want, then go for it. Your bridal party will be totally fine not sitting with their SO’s for 20 minutes while you eat. Or you could have the SO’s (minus the BM’s SO of course) sit at the head table, but that’ll probably make for a HUGE head table.

Post # 7
4151 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Sit the SOs with friends or on a table nearby, they’re adults and they can get over not sitting with other for an hour or so!!  I’ve never seen a head table done any other way.  After dinner it doesn’t matter anyway.

Post # 8
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our bridal party is going to be a little on the larger side, so I have been discussing with Fiance doing a sweetheart table with just us, along with four tables closest to us with our attendants, their SOs and children, and our parents/grandparents. We may end up doing a head table, but I want to ensure that everyone is happy, and since people will be up and mingling after they eat, anyway, I think that may be best for us.

Post # 9
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d say to still do it and they should be more understanding. It’s not like they will be sitting without their SO for the whole time just when you eat. I don’t understand this entitlement people have, an SO isn’t going to die sitting alone with other people.

I was my friends Maid/Matron of Honor and she had the wedding party sit with her while our SO’s sat elsewhere. Sure I felt bad for my SO sitting with people he didn’t know but he’s a grown man and is fully capable of handling himself with strangers.  


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