Post # 1
I know head table are a bit ocward for SO who are not in the bridal party…..
But our head table is 50/50 3 of the ppl have SO who will be at the wedding 3 ppl do not have SO, this being said I have always imaged my wedding day to have the traditional head table, and I really like this idea. Two of the ppl with SO are throwing a fit informing me who I can and cannot sit their SO with as it is not fair that they can’t sit with them so they at least get to pick where they sit. I think I am just hurt because they tell me that I shouldn’t force them to sit at the head table. I’ve only asked for very few details to be “my way” at the wedding (the head table, and my dress, and no heels). I let them pick out the dress they all wanted matching or not I didn’t care, they can where their hair however and i’m 5’2″ the rest of the girls are at least 5’6″ before heels, I can’t stand in heels to save my life, while I was informed that they were all wearing heels so not to need to hem the dress (I paid for the dress they chose including alterations they asked for them to not be hemmed) the 5’6″ girl will now be 5’10” and the next shortest girl I even offered to pay for shoes! I just feel that they are completley disregarding what I would like for the wedding which isn’t very much at least I don’t think it is, I may be wrong? Some of the girls have even gone so far as to inform me they will not sit at a head table she will be sitting with her son, (her parents and boyfriend will be at the wedding) I offered to have her son sit at the head table (he is not in the wedding) and my flower girl and ring bearer will be sitting with their parents. I don’t know how much more understanding I can be? They keep calling me a bridezilla and that my wedding is costing to much for them! I have paid for everything so far as I know.
I understand that my wedding is not as important to everyone else but I hoped they would be at least interested in some of the planning, but that is even asking to much too.
I guess now that I’m done ranting; the point should I give up my head table and just have a sweet heart table or should I stick to my wishes? What if they refues to sit there the day of the wedding? I wish I had just ran away and eloped at times!
Post # 3
If you really want a head table, just tell them that’s what you’re doing. It’s not like they’ll be sitting there all night. They can get up and mingle once they eat.
I, personally, don’t like head tables, but if you do, do it! We’re doing a sweetheart table in a completely different room. We want time to have a few minutes alone. While everyone is getting their food, we’re going to take photos, then go eat while everyone is finishing up their food. Then we’re going to come out and go straight into our first dance, then cut the cake, etc. We won’t even see our guests while they’re eating, haha.
Post # 4
I’m having a head table, but two of my bridesmaids are married, so I am just having their husbands sit at the head table with us. Have you considered including their SO’s?
Post # 5
I was orginally going t include SO’s but the bestman’s SO called several things at the bridal shower, going so far to say our wedding is a joke and if it were up to her Bridesmaid or Best Man wouldn’t be in the wedding so not to keen on having her at the bridal party, I’m not forbiding her from the wedding as i want the Bridesmaid or Best Man happy.
Post # 6
@MrsB2beee: bestman’s SO called several things at the bridal shower, going so far to say our wedding is a joke and if it were up to her Bridesmaid or Best Man wouldn’t be in the wedding so not to keen on having her at the bridal party, I’m not forbiding her from the wedding as i want the Bridesmaid or Best Man happy.
Uhm..I would probably be having a nice little chat with your Fiance and his best man about the way she treated you. That’s just ridiculous and uncalled for. Personally, I would probably tell them that if she thinks it is such a joke, that she doesn’t need to waste her time to come.
As far as the head table….if that’s something that you want, then go for it. Your bridal party will be totally fine not sitting with their SO’s for 20 minutes while you eat. Or you could have the SO’s (minus the BM’s SO of course) sit at the head table, but that’ll probably make for a HUGE head table.
Post # 7
Sit the SOs with friends or on a table nearby, they’re adults and they can get over not sitting with other for an hour or so!! I’ve never seen a head table done any other way. After dinner it doesn’t matter anyway.
Post # 8
Our bridal party is going to be a little on the larger side, so I have been discussing with Fiance doing a sweetheart table with just us, along with four tables closest to us with our attendants, their SOs and children, and our parents/grandparents. We may end up doing a head table, but I want to ensure that everyone is happy, and since people will be up and mingling after they eat, anyway, I think that may be best for us.
Post # 9
I’d say to still do it and they should be more understanding. It’s not like they will be sitting without their SO for the whole time just when you eat. I don’t understand this entitlement people have, an SO isn’t going to die sitting alone with other people.
I was my friends Maid/Matron of Honor and she had the wedding party sit with her while our SO’s sat elsewhere. Sure I felt bad for my SO sitting with people he didn’t know but he’s a grown man and is fully capable of handling himself with strangers.