Post # 1
Hey ladies- I wanted you to know I am not waiting anymore. After years of wedding talk and ups and downs, I will not be waiting for a proposal anymore. SO has said for years he doesn’t want to get married. It was never anything he wanted. After many talks and tears…he decided we would get married bc it was what I wanted. For the past year I thought I was waiting, and I thought our wedding would be this summer…but over the weekend we talked once again. And its someting he feels strongly about. That being said, I don’t want a marriage that doesnt mean the same to the other person. We have a great relationship and life together. So I’m not sure where this will leave us-but I’m giving my waiting spot up! Good luck ladies.
Post # 3
Whatever you decide, we are here if you need us.
My advice to you is think carefully of what YOU WANT. You will have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.Think of what makes you truly happy. Do not settle on your happiness.
If marriage is important to you and based solely on your post, it looks like it was important to you for many years but then your SO made you change your mind.
Post # 4
Do not settle! You only get ONE life! ((hugs)) this sounds like a really tough time for you…Im sorry you are going through this! Like PP said…we are here for you!
Post # 5
I am sorry you both didn’t want the same things. If he has always said he wasn’t for marriage, and you always said you were for it, then you were always going to come to this wall of who gets there own way, which would probably leave the other resentful.
Personally if you have a great relationship, I don’t see why marriage would be such an issue for him, but then again if you have a great relationship then why do you feel the need for you to get married?
I can only advise you need to really ask yourselves where you want to go from here, but as harsh it may be, if I wanted marriage (and I very much do), then I would want to be with a man who can’t wait to marry me as well.
Good luck and if you need us we are still here for you 🙂
Post # 6
Best of luck to you! I’m very sorry he does not want marriage. Please let us now what happens. Personally, I think you deserve to be in a relationship where the other person wants to marry you. Whatever you choose, wish you the best.
Post # 7
I agree with all the comments above. How come he gets to make the call in your relationship? What about what you want, your feelings, your dreams? You derserve to be with someone who can’t wait to marry you.
Post # 9
I’m sorry that he didn’t want the same things out of life that you do, and I definitley agree that you shouldn’t put your life on hold. As others have said, we are here if you need anything. **HUGS**
Post # 10
Sorry to hear about that – I think you can only go with your instincts from here. If he is worth giving up your dream of marriage and you feel OK with that, then go with it. Big hugs to you
Post # 11
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I too am going through a similar situation. As others have said you deserve someone who can’t wait to be your husband. You deserve everything you want in life. And I need to listen to my own advice…….