Post # 1
A bit ago (in early 2019) I ran into my health teacher (I graduated high school in 2009) and I said hi and asked her why we were taught things that were not factually correct. She said she was sorry I felt that way and promptly left.
I still do not understand the purpose of:
– Telling us that marriage will protect us from STDs
– Telling us (esp girls) that we were ‘soiled’ if we had sex
– Telling us that there is no health benefit to occasionally drinking red wine once you are of age.
– Telling us that condoms will not protect from pregnancy, only abstinence is a valid way to practice family planning
Why not empower students with facts and accurate information?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Because it’s about control. Controlling what women do with their bodies and lives, and for whatever stupid reason someone decided that shaming and scaring girls was the best way to do that.
Post # 3
Wow! I graduated in 1999 and was not taught any of that. I’m going to assume this is #regional.
Post # 4
Yeah IDK where you went to school but I graduated high school in 2007 and was definitely not told any of that.
Your health teacher likely didn’t set the curriculum though, and it was kind of odd for you to accost her after not seeing her for a decade. I’d have peaced out too her if I were her.
Post # 5
Wow. You were kind of a dick to that individual. You really accosted a former teacher while they are out living their private life over a curriculum they likely had zero control over?
Also, do you really have zero awareness that there are large areas of the country where “abstinence-only” sex education is a “thing” (a backwards and counter-productive thing but a thing nonetheless)? Countless news stories have been done and articles and academic studies have been written on the subject for years. And apparently you lived in a district and/or state that believed that. If you have an issue with it then support organizations that educate youth about sexual health options and write letters to your state’s board of education and school district administrators…don’t interrogate your underpaid teacher from a decade ago just trying to make a living and live their life.
Post # 6
There are huge swaths of really conservative people in the US (if that’s where you are). They push for these backward lessons because they either genuinely believe them or want to push their agenda. Usually lessons like that are set by the school district not the individual teachers
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Quite weird that you would run into her randomly on the street and hurl all of that stuff at her. I’d just walk away, too. What did you expect her to do in that scenario? She’s just out living her life.
As PP said, she didn’t make the curriculum, she was told what she needed to teach. Teachers don’t get to decide what they teach students. And I graduated from high school before you and we were never taught any of that, so those lessons were very much a product of where you lived. I think those lessons are bad, but I mean, what’s your former teacher supposed to do about the curriculum that was set a decade ago?
Post # 8
Did you go to a religious school?
I was not taught any of those things and I graduated school in 2001 (public school). My husband went to a Catholic school and was only taught abstinence-only sex-ed.
Post # 9
That poor teacher! She likely has zero choice in the curriculum as others have mentioned , and I find it so inappropriate that you went up to her after all this time to call her out on it. I don’t agree with what you were taught either, but that doesn’t make it right to call her out , out of nowhere over it. Not sure what else you were expecting from this post, a lot of areas DO empower their students with better information but it’s a very regional thing.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2016 - Tennessee
Graduated in 99 and I was also never taught any of that.
Post # 11
But I agree that I would have walked away from you as well. Ha.
Post # 12
Don’t teachers have a fair bit of say over what/how they teach? I went to high school in Southern Ohio, near Cincinnati, not the deep South.
We were both getting in the pool to swim laps at LA Fitness and she said something to the effect of “Nice to see you! I hope health class came in handy” or something, in return I said that unfortunately I had not found all the information we were given to be factually based.
Post # 13
No, teachers don’t have a lot of control over curriculum – just day-to-day lesson planning (source – sister, parents are teachers).
Particulary for sex ed – that’s usually determined by the state or school board.
Post # 14
The teacher was still complicit. She had a choice to teach another subject or to refuse to lie to impressionable children. Morever, while many states had abstinence-only education requirements, few required such damaging, unscientific, and religion-laced falsehoods as “[people] are ‘soiled’ if they have sex”. Good for her for finally confronting the teacher.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
If she brought up health class, I think it’s fine that you responded the way you did! Unless you went through that whole list of incorrect lessons without her prompting. However no, I don’t think teachers have much say in the curriculum.