- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Hi, everyone. I decided not to post this under the wellness section, because I am not looking for health advice, but just for a vent, and to see if any other Bees maybe have experienced health disabilities and the emotional effects they have.
About two years ago, I began experiencing migraines. They run very strongly in my dad’s side of the family, and there is of course a strong genetic correlation. They became increasingly more frequent and severe to the point that last year I was diagnosed with having chronic migraines by a neurologist. On average, I have about 15 full blown migraines a month, with several more days of having migraine like symptoms. I have tried so many migraine medications, and a couple helped for a few weeks, but none of them helped long term. Additionally, maybe from the stress put on my body from this, I feel like I am constantly sick. Colds, stomach bugs, UTIs, yeast infections, ear infections, I seem to get it all. It has gotten to the point where my fiance and I rarely go out. I am in my last semester of undergrad, and sometimes schoolwork/going to class is a struggle.
Of course I am terrified because my wedding day is approaching (less than 4 months away.) I researched and bought supplements to help, and bought groupons for acupuncture, a chiropractor, and massages to try. I am also researching to find a better neurologist.
It has gotten to the point that it impacts my life so much on a daily basis. Migraines have such a stigma to it, that most people truly don’t understand how disabling they are. People are not very understanding of why I have not been able to work while taking classes and imply that I am lazy or “that must be nice to just take classes. Wish I was you!” Trust me, you don’t. On a daily basis, I am in a lot of pain. Relatives have said, “If you do have migraines, how could you get such good grades in your classes?” Lots of people, understandably, ask for my plans after graduating. I don’t know what to tell them. If the different options I am researching don’t help tremendously, there is no way I can work when half the time I need to lie down in a dark room with a cold washcloth on my forehead.
I am very lucky that my fiance is so understanding. He is about to graduate from nursing school, so he definitely has been exposed to people with disabilities. I have talked to him about the impact this could have on our future, because I want him to have his eyes open. It is possible as his wife I will not be able to work, or have children. It has been really hard on me. I feel depressed a lot. I have overcome tremendous obstacles to graduate with my degree, but it seems to be for nothing.
I am sorry for the vent. Are there any Bees who suffer from major health issues, or are disabled?