Post # 1
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
Yahoo Healthy Living featured an article today on the question of couples sleeping separately.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/health/more-couples-sleeping-apart-is-this-healthy-2168681/
I know there have been posts about this before, but I’m curious, what do you think?
My Fiance and I don’t live together, so we don’t yet know how we’ll adapt to sleeping next to each other night after night. The nights we’ve shared a bed (on vacations, etc), I have usually had trouble sleeping, so I think it’s right-on that women have more trouble sleeping next to their SOs. However, I think the intimacy factor is important, and for that reason, I know we’ll make it work once we are married and share a home.
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
Wow…I had never heard of dual master bedrooms!
Post # 4
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Honey bee
I am a light sleeper, my husband and I tend to wake up at different times in the morning. So honestly I do have better, more restful sleep when he accidentally falls asleep on the couch. I feel bad saying that! But its true. I would never go as far as to banish him to another bedroom, I just choose to cherish the nights when he’s not in the bed. The funny thing is though, if he’s not home at all, I usually don’t sleep well either. I’m a picky sleeper apparently!
Post # 5
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Honey bee
When I first starting spending the night at my FI’s, he couldn’t fall asleep with me in the room. I’m a heavy sleeper, I snore, and I grind my teeth, and he’s quite a light sleeper. We only slept in the same bed about 50% of the time. Now that we live together, we probably sleep in the same bed 95% of the time, so needless to say he’s gotten used to it for the most part. If he doesn’t fall asleep first, he will be tossing and turning, listening to my “sleep” noises. Poor guy. I can sleep through a tornado.
It might take some adjusting, but you’ll work something out.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
I read this yesterday. While sometimes my Fiance snoring will wake me up but I definitely sleep better with him around.
Some weekends he has shows that go late into the night (he’s in a band) and I have trouble falling asleep without him. It seems like it wouldn’t make a difference but usually I can only fall asleep out of sheer exhaustion rather than actually being able to pick a decent time to go to sleep.
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Fiance and I sleep like babies together! We have gotten so bad that it’s hard to sleep apart (we are in the process of moving in together, but are in seperate homes currently)!
Post # 8
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper
@PrncssDva: I know! I can’t imagine a house with two master bedrooms. That makes a couple seem very separate. But I guess it works for a lot of people if it’s a growing trend!
@jennifer_espos: Don’t feel bad. Just because you sleep better without him doesn’t mean you want to be without him.
@Ryansgirl: Thanks and good insight! I know my Fiance is a very heavy sleeper and I’m the opposite!
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
My SO and I sleep together every night… and I get terrible sleep. But part of the joy of living together is waking up next to him, so I drink coffee now and get over it.
Post # 10
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper
@camrie: @mrsv2be:Good to know it can definitely work!
Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
@mcnetn3: Haha way to cope. 🙂
Post # 12
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Busy bee
This is exactly why we bought a king size bed. It’s big enough that we can sleep ‘apart’ and get better sleep, but still be in the same bed and go to sleep and wake up together and, you know, all the other non-sleeping things!
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
Fiance works nights and I work days. So we sleep separately in the same bedroom most of the time. For the rare occasions that we do sleep at the same time, I always keep earplugs handy. Fiance snores, lol!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
I am a light sleeper and my boyfriend snores very heavily! But I love sleeping in the bed with him, so I just bought some ear plugs and now I can’t hear him!
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
We don’t sleep well when we are apart in general. I had bronchitis a few weeks ago and had a terrible cough so slept on the couch a few nights so I wouldn’t worry about keeping him awake. Neither of us liked it at all, we much prefer the intimacy of being in the same bed and waking up beside each other. I don’t even like king beds in hotels because we aren’t big people and it feels like too much space. Sometimes it’s annoying – he’s a light sleeper and if I get up to pee it’s likely to wake him up, and of course there’s always times when one of you snores or kicks the other or whatever, and we share with the dog too, but overall it’s perfect for us. That said I’m someone who needs my sleep so if it was impossible to sleep with him I’d probably make the sacrifice at least a few times a week to sleep elsewhere!
Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
I don’t have problems sleeping next to my husband at all. He wakes up more than I do. I have a harder time sleeping along.
